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[Eliza] Where's Nicky?

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Is he under the bed?
Where did he go?

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[Nicholas] [inaudible]
came with that choice.

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- [Eliza] You need to get out
from under the bed.
- [Nicholas] Hmm.

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Come on.
We're gonna start your routine.

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I don't even care if you brushed
your teeth this morning.

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Listen, mommy has
her Tuesday meeting,

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which means you've got to get up
because I've got to get to work.

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Okay, I don't have time to play.

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Nick's not going to
cooperate games.

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Nicholas,
this isn't funny anymore.

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All right?

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You need to come out.

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What's the matter, babe?

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- [Nicholas] I can't do.
- [Eliza] Listen. Come here.
Come here.

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Can you at least
come here and talk to me?

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- I'm not the enemy.
- Nope.

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[Eliza] <i>I constantly feel like</i>
<i>I'm barely holding my life</i>
<i>together.</i>

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It's really frustrating me
right now what's going on.

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And I really need you to get up.

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Nick, come on.

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<i>Nick just started</i>
<i>the third grade.</i>

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<i>He got diagnosed</i>
<i>with ADHD in January.</i>

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Nick, come on.

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<i>Getting ready for school</i>
<i>is totally impossible</i>

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<i>because he's just rolling around</i>
<i>on the floor</i>

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<i>and decided that he doesn't</i>
<i>want to listen to me.</i>

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What... what can I do?
What can I do to
make this easier?

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We need to get to school.

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<i>It's like hyperactive</i>
<i>and stubborn, and defiant.</i>

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<i>Totally defiant.</i>

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We have got to get out of here
by like 8:15.

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<i>I mean, nobody tells you</i>
<i>how to parent to begin with.</i>

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<i>And then they don't tell you</i>
<i>how to parent a kid</i>

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<i>that has any kind of need</i>
<i>that's outside of the norm.</i>

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<i>I felt like I'm constantly</i>
<i>yelling at him.</i>

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- [kid 1] [inaudible]
- [Eliza] Oh, jeez, guys,
it's 7:45.

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[kid 1] 7:45?

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Um, so, I'm gonna just make
some coffee,

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and go get myself dressed,
and we're gonna need to get out
of the door.

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<i>We had three meetings</i>
<i>with his teachers in, like,</i>
<i>the first two weeks.</i>

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<i>I had multiple emails</i>
<i>because he was acting out</i>

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<i>and he was not</i>
<i>following directions.</i>

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- Got it, Nick?
- Mm-hmm.

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So, looks like you need to
brush your hair.

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<i>His teacher is clearly</i>
<i>frustrated.</i>

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<i>He must be getting</i>
<i>reprimanded constantly.</i>

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...on there. Over there.

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<i>And he'd come home</i>
<i>saying he hated school</i>
<i>and he was stupid.</i>

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[indistinct dialogue continues]

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<i>It's heartbreaking.</i>

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[man 1]
<i>Ignition, three, two, one!</i>

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[rumbling]

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[upbeat music playing]

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[President Obama]
<i>In two months,</i>

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<i>Scott Kelly will begin</i>
<i>a year-long stay in space.</i>

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<i>- So, good luck, Captain.</i>
<i>We're proud of you.</i>
- [crowd applauding]

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[Scott] <i>I remember in the second</i>
<i>grade my mother took me</i>
<i>to my grandmother's</i>

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<i>to help me learn how to read.</i>

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I remember
after the second session,

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my grandmother saying
to my mom...

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[rocket thunders]

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<i>..."You know,</i>
<i>this kid is stupid.</i>

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<i>"And he will never learn</i>
<i>how to read.</i>

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<i>"And I'm not doing</i>
<i>this anymore."</i>

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<i>♪ Had to have high</i>
<i>High hopes for a living ♪</i>

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<i>♪ Shooting for the stars </i>
<i>When I couldn't make a killing ♪</i>

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Oh, you know,
we had six nominations
and we won three already.

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Um, we lost one of them.
There's two more to go.

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I can't wait to perform.

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[Will.i.am]
<i>There was a couple of teachers</i>
<i>that were like,</i>

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<i>"You need to focus better.</i>
<i>You're always dazing off."</i>

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Because I had like A's
and C's and B's

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but I had a lot of U's
because of my hyperactivity.

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♪ <i>Had to have high</i>
<i>High hopes for a living</i> ♪

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♪ <i>Didn't know how</i>
<i>But I always had a feeling</i> ♪

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[man 2]
Fitness guru, Jillian Michaels.
Jillian, great to have you here.

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[indistinct dialogue]

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[Jillian] <i>My whole life I just</i>
<i>thought, "Oh, well, I can't </i>
<i>learn it. Or I'm no good at it."</i>

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I mean, I must have been in
summer school

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every single year from 12 to 18.

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<i>"Is she just stupid?" </i>
<i>"Is she not trying hard enough?"</i>

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"Is she not applying herself?"

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♪ <i>Mama said don't give up</i>
<i>It's a little complicated</i> ♪

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I got to the airport
a little bit late,

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and I thought I was going to
miss the plane, right?

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So, I was trying to catch it.

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But that's so hard
because those things
go, like, 600 miles an hour.

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[audience laughing]

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<i>I never went to a therapist.</i>
<i>Nobody ever talked about it.</i>

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I was just as quirky,
out of control kid

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<i>with, uh, very few friends</i>
<i>and social skills.</i>

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But now I know why.

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♪ <i>Had to have high</i>
<i>High hopes for a living</i> ♪

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♪ <i>Shooting for the stars </i>
<i>When I couldn't make a killing</i> ♪

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[man 3] <i>When's the last time</i>
<i>you saw the head of an airline</i>

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<i>show up on one of his flights</i>

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<i>and not only talk</i>
<i>to his passengers,</i>

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<i>but treat them like people?</i>

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[David] Do you like to have
a chocolate chip cookie?

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<i>When I took the ACT, I got</i>
<i>so low on the English portion</i>

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that my counselor said,

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"Had you just answered C
on every question,

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"you would have scored higher."

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<i>♪ Mama said don't give up </i>

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<i>♪ It's a little complicated </i>

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- [man 4]
<i>Carter saved her best till last.</i>
- [crowd cheering]

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[man 5]
<i>There is a new queen</i>
<i>of the shot put.</i>

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You're slow.
You're stupid. You're lazy.

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How come you just can't get it?
I showed you ten times.

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What's wrong with you?

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<i>♪ All run and it's going to be</i>
<i>A sight to see ♪</i>

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<i>♪ Ei, ei, ei</i>
<i>'Cause I got... ♪</i>

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[woman 1]
<i>You see a whole display</i>
<i>of your own shoes.</i>

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<i>Are you used to that already?</i>

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No, I'm not...
I'm not used to it.

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- So, how do you feel?
- It feels great.

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<i>Because you're falling</i>
<i>behind in class</i>

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your self-esteem goes down
because you think you're dumb.

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<i>♪ Stay up on that rise</i>
<i>Stay up on that rise</i>
<i>And never come down, oh-oh ♪</i>

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- [man 6] Let's go, Joe?
- [Terry] <i>What's wrong with me?</i>

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<i>Why can't I focus?</i>
<i>Why can't I learn?</i>

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The word that kept coming out
from this, as I look back,
was he's a hyper boy.

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<i>♪ 'Cause I had to have high</i>
<i>High hopes for a living ♪</i>

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<i>♪ Shooting for the stars </i>
<i>When I couldn't make a killing ♪</i>

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It just grinds you down
into thinking you're stupid.

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I'm stupid. I'm stupid.
I'm stupid.

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Can't sit still, disorganized,

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- can't focus, lazy, stupid...
- Annoying, disorganized...

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- Complacent.
- Crazy.

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- You can't make it.
- You never listen.

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- You don't clean your room.
- Disorganized.

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[indistinct dialogue]

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It's a super skill set.

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And fuck what people think.

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<i>♪ Always had high, high hopes </i>

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[birds chirping]

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You know, by cleaning that
up that means

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- putting too much pressure.
- [Hogan] No.

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- I emptied the dishwasher.
It's all clean.
- Dad already did the first part.

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- You're gonna put that
in the dishwasher.
- [Hogan] All of it?

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- [Emily] Yes. It's so good.
- Even this...
- [Troy] Yeah. No. All of it.

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[Emily] Yeah.

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It's all nice and empty for you,
ready to go.

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[Hogan] It's all nice and empty.
Thanks, Dad.

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[Troy] You're welcome.
I do what I can.

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- [sighs]
- [Emily chuckles]

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[Emily] <i>When we were getting</i>
<i>in the process of adoption,</i>

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<i>like, I hoped for a little boy,</i>
<i>like, Hogan.</i>

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I didn't know it would be
so hard to raise a Hogan.

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- [Emily] I know I could have...
- [Hogan] Can I just?

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[Emily]
No, you can get it. All right.

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I'm just gonna get
this little bit out.

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Okay. Well, then why don't you
just do the dishes?

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[Emily] No, I don't want to
do the dishes.

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I... No, you're welcome
to do. I really... I'm
really fine with it.

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[Emily chuckles]

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- [Hogan] Really.
- [Emily] I just want you to do
them correctly.

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[utensils clatter]

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When we used to take him hiking
it used to drive Troy crazy

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because we would hike together

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and just, like, we're going
from here to here.

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We're going to hike
to see this waterfall.

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But with Hogan, it was like
we're gonna stop

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and look at every single leaf
on the ground.

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Or here's a little pile
of things that I've got to
play in for a while.

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Whoo!

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[Emily] <i>I think first grade</i>
<i>was the first time a teacher</i>
<i>ever mentioned ADHD.</i>

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[breathing heavily]

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I'm sure I was super offended
at the time

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because I just was not...

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Really wasn't on my radar
at that time

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like, he was very energetic
but he's also so fun.

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[whirring]

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I definitely think that
it comes easier to other people.

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Or to maybe comes easier
to other people

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to, like, stop and think
before they do something.

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It feels, like, I'm always,
like, changing...

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In my mind,
I'm always changing subjects.

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And it's almost like
spinning in my head.

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[mellow music playing]

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[Emily] <i>It really did start to</i>
<i>affect everything, his grades.</i>

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<i>We were noticing it at home.</i>

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<i>It was affecting</i>
<i>his friendships.</i>

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<i>He just was struggling.</i>

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This week's been really
hard week for me.

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I almost got out of test.

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I got in an argument
with my teacher.

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I got almost in an argument
with the assistant principal.

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Uh... It's been really tough.

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- [Troy] Hogan?
- [Hogan] Yeah.

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- [Troy] It's time to go.
- [Hogan] Okay.

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[Troy] <i>It makes me emotional</i>
<i>just in terms of...</i>

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It helps explain some things.

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It doesn't change anything
about how he's gonna have to
navigate in this world.

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We got to go.

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[laptop chimes]

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[Dale] <i>It's fascinating,</i>
<i>but when I started</i>
<i>to research my book,</i>

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<i>I was stunned to see that ADHD </i>
<i>was the number one most searched</i>
<i>term on the internet.</i>

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And, I mean, who would
have figured that.

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I mean, I'm thinking
you got to be kidding, right?

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Where did that come from?

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[soft music playing]

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<i>Probably the easiest way</i>
<i>to understand ADHD</i>

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<i>is to look at</i>
<i>what it stands for.</i>

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<i>Attention Deficit</i>
<i>Hyperactivity Disorder.</i>

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<i>So, you have a deficit </i>
<i>in attention and hyperactivity.</i>

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Oh, God, the name is awful,
Attention Deficit
Hyperactivity Disorder.

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It's a terrible name.

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You got a deficit.
You've got a disorder.

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Man, you are... You're sick,
you got problems.

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The very name trivializes
the nature of the disorder

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by selecting one of its most
superficial symptoms

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as the name for the disorder.

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I think that the public believes
that ADHD is a made-up disorder

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for people who are lazy
and trying to cover up.

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[mellow music playing]

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<i>Skeptics would say</i>
<i>ADHD is just an excuse</i>
<i>for forgetting your keys.</i>

221
00:11:06,448 --> 00:11:07,797
<i>We all forget our keys.</i>

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I think part of the reason
is because if you look
at the symptoms of ADHD,

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all of them are things
that are typical in everybody
to some extent.

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You get distracted,
your mind wanders.

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- Losing things.
- Impulsivity.

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They miss deadlines.
They're always running behind.

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Not sitting still.

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Exquisitely sensitive
to rejection.

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- Problems focusing.
- Daydream.

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Difficulties with inhibition.

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Difficulty regulating
their emotions.

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- Interrupting.
- Trouble organizing.

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Problem solving.
Decision making.
The list goes on and on.

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[indistinct chatter]

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[Amy] <i>We really try to</i>
<i>pay attention to</i>

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00:11:43,964 --> 00:11:46,793
<i>all of their behaviors</i>
<i>across different settings.</i>

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<i>And we also think about</i>
<i>how these behaviors,</i>

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<i>if they have them,</i>
<i>are affecting them.</i>

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<i>So, is it causing them</i>
<i>some distress or impairment</i>
<i>in their life?</i>

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00:11:54,931 --> 00:11:55,932
[Eliza] ...for a second.

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00:11:55,976 --> 00:11:57,673
[kid 1] More with fingers.

242
00:11:57,717 --> 00:12:01,285
Fingers like that. Remember?
Can you deal with that?

243
00:12:03,331 --> 00:12:06,334
<i>Nick really struggles</i>
<i>with transitions.</i>

244
00:12:06,377 --> 00:12:10,512
<i>So, going from being home,</i>
<i>having lots of family time,</i>

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<i>seeing his mom and dad a lot</i>
<i>to go into school</i>
<i>threw him for a complete loop.</i>

246
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<i>He was totally out of sorts.</i>

247
00:12:17,040 --> 00:12:21,523
<i>Nothing about that school </i>
<i>environment felt right for him.</i>

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00:12:22,480 --> 00:12:26,397
All right. Nicholas, I love you.
Give me a kiss.

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[kid 1] I love you, Mom.

250
00:12:28,878 --> 00:12:32,360
[Francine] <i>There's this </i>
<i>misconception that if the child</i>
<i>is motivated enough</i>

251
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that they will comply,

252
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they will do the things
they need to do.

253
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But the fact is that
it's not a matter of willpower.

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It's a matter of the dynamics
of the chemistry of the brain.

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I spend my every waking moment
trying to get outside
of my own head

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because it's a mess in there.

257
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It's very busy.

258
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Your brain is always firing,
you're firing at 1000 miles
an hour,

259
00:12:57,037 --> 00:13:01,171
your eight cylinders
by eight cylinders, 24/7, 365.

260
00:13:01,215 --> 00:13:03,957
It is like
I'm juggling 20 balls,

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but I don't remember
where they were in the air.

262
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I'm just there trying to kind of
catch all these balls
and I remember nothing.

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Imagine somebody sitting
on the keys of the computer.
That's what your brain is like.

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That's ADHD.

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[Amy] <i>So, what's happened</i>
<i>in the last 10 or 20 years</i>

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<i>is more specific understanding</i>
<i>of the neurology behind it.</i>

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<i>An area in the brain</i>
<i>that is somewhat different</i>

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<i>is the connection</i>
<i>between the prefrontal cortex</i>
<i>and the caudate.</i>

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<i>The area for emotional control</i>
<i>and impulsivity.</i>

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<i>So, the cortex is responsible </i>
<i>for thinking and problem solving</i>

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<i>and underneath it</i>
<i>are these structures</i>

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<i>that are part</i>
<i>of these complicated loops.</i>

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<i>They take information</i>
<i>from the cortex,</i>

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<i>bring it to the sub-cortex, </i>
<i>and bring it back to the cortex.</i>

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<i>So, this is a big relay loop </i>
<i>where information is processed.</i>

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[Yamalis] <i>In ADHD, that relay</i>
<i>system sort of short circuits,</i>

277
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<i>and so, it's almost chaotic.</i>

278
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<i>Maybe a good way</i>
<i>to think about it</i>

279
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<i>is if you were doing a really</i>
<i>challenging physics worksheet</i>

280
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<i>and I'm blaring music</i>
<i>into your ears.</i>

281
00:14:16,333 --> 00:14:18,945
<i>Plus, I'm making you listen</i>
<i>to a lecture,</i>

282
00:14:18,988 --> 00:14:21,382
<i>plus, I'm having you</i>
<i>write some things,</i>

283
00:14:21,425 --> 00:14:23,645
<i>plus, somebody is tapping</i>
<i>on you.</i>

284
00:14:23,688 --> 00:14:26,735
<i>That's, essentially,</i>
<i>what it feels like</i>
<i>to the ADHD brain.</i>

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<i>They have every desire</i>
<i>to just finish the worksheet</i>

286
00:14:31,696 --> 00:14:36,571
<i>but they just cannot focus</i>
<i>their attention enough</i>
<i>to persist and stay on task.</i>

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00:14:53,109 --> 00:14:55,155
[simmers]

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00:14:56,678 --> 00:14:59,289
Yeah, look, almost building it.

289
00:14:59,333 --> 00:15:01,291
See, I'm putting
some cheese in there.

290
00:15:01,335 --> 00:15:03,511
[Bear]
Can I put some cheese in there?

291
00:15:03,554 --> 00:15:05,208
[Briana] Yeah, you can put
some cheese in there.

292
00:15:06,340 --> 00:15:08,820
- [Briana] What?
That's your mouth.
- [Bear chuckles]

293
00:15:08,864 --> 00:15:10,344
That's not the shell.

294
00:15:12,041 --> 00:15:13,651
[Briana] <i>Whenever someone meets</i>
<i>Bear for the first time,</i>

295
00:15:13,695 --> 00:15:15,958
<i>the first thing they always say,</i>
<i>"He's such a happy kid."</i>

296
00:15:18,091 --> 00:15:21,746
- Will Bear actually eat
all his food?
- [Bear chuckles]

297
00:15:23,531 --> 00:15:26,273
- Don't bet on it.
- [both laugh]

298
00:15:29,102 --> 00:15:31,669
<i>Bear started walking,</i>
<i>like, at 14 months.</i>

299
00:15:31,713 --> 00:15:37,110
Once he got the groove,
heh, he's like,
all over the place.

300
00:15:37,153 --> 00:15:40,896
- [water rumbling]
- [Briana laughs]

301
00:15:40,940 --> 00:15:43,420
<i>He is having so much fun.</i>
[laughs]

302
00:15:45,248 --> 00:15:49,731
<i>But I never was thinking, like,</i>
<i>"Oh, you know, he has ADHD."</i>

303
00:15:49,774 --> 00:15:54,083
<i>I mean, because</i>
<i>boys are normally</i>
<i>all over the place anyway.</i>

304
00:15:54,127 --> 00:15:56,259
[both laugh]

305
00:15:56,303 --> 00:16:00,263
<i>But the tantrums</i>
<i>are just so intense.</i>

306
00:16:00,307 --> 00:16:02,222
<i>Just the rolling things.</i>

307
00:16:05,007 --> 00:16:08,750
<i>Screaming, stomping.</i>

308
00:16:08,793 --> 00:16:10,447
Jeez!

309
00:16:10,491 --> 00:16:12,710
<i>Just really, really, really</i>
<i>bad tantrums.</i>

310
00:16:14,321 --> 00:16:18,151
<i>And it was really becoming</i>
<i>stressful in the household</i>
<i>because of it.</i>

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Okay, Bear.

312
00:16:20,196 --> 00:16:23,069
<i>No matter how many times</i>
<i>I would try to talk to him.</i>

313
00:16:23,112 --> 00:16:24,635
You have to calm down.

314
00:16:25,636 --> 00:16:27,334
It's not a big deal.

315
00:16:29,292 --> 00:16:32,556
Parenting a child
with ADHD is exhausting.

316
00:16:32,600 --> 00:16:35,081
[both laugh]

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00:16:35,124 --> 00:16:38,954
[Amy]
<i>Basically, it's more stress.</i>
<i>It's a higher stress level.</i>

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00:16:41,348 --> 00:16:44,829
It's a higher emotional
stress level and it's ongoing.

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00:16:44,873 --> 00:16:47,093
[Briana] Come on.
Come, put your pajamas on.

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00:16:48,137 --> 00:16:49,095
Bear!

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00:16:50,922 --> 00:16:53,055
Bear.

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00:16:53,099 --> 00:16:55,623
[Russell]
<i>We have defiance and refusal</i>
<i>and temper tantrums.</i>

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00:16:55,666 --> 00:16:57,625
<i>And now we have</i>
<i>a tornado in the family.</i>

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00:16:57,668 --> 00:17:01,020
[Bear laughs]

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00:17:01,063 --> 00:17:04,675
[Yamalis] <i>I like to think</i>
<i>of the ADHD brain </i>
<i>as being hungry for stimulation.</i>

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00:17:07,591 --> 00:17:10,725
<i>Any kind of sensory input is,</i>
<i>essentially, like its food.</i>

327
00:17:11,769 --> 00:17:14,381
<i>And so, when it suddenly</i>
<i>gets hungry,</i>

328
00:17:14,424 --> 00:17:18,385
<i>because it's a boring</i>
<i>situation or a boring task,</i>
<i>it goes in search of food.</i>

329
00:17:18,428 --> 00:17:21,083
<i>And it goes in search of</i>
<i>different types</i>
<i>of stimulations.</i>

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00:17:21,127 --> 00:17:23,825
[dramatic music playing]

331
00:17:23,868 --> 00:17:28,134
<i>Believe it or not even getting</i>
<i>yelled at does activate them</i>
<i>a little bit.</i>

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00:17:28,177 --> 00:17:31,746
<i>And so, if that's the only</i>
<i>stimulation they can get,</i>
<i>they'll work to get it.</i>

333
00:17:31,789 --> 00:17:33,313
[Briana] How was school today?

334
00:17:33,356 --> 00:17:37,882
[laughing]

335
00:17:39,232 --> 00:17:40,189
Look.

336
00:17:42,061 --> 00:17:46,326
This is a mountain.

337
00:17:48,284 --> 00:17:50,417
[Briana] Oh, okay.

338
00:17:51,592 --> 00:17:57,641
So, I actually have ADHD
and I was diagnosed last year.

339
00:17:57,685 --> 00:17:58,555
Um...

340
00:18:00,079 --> 00:18:04,344
And there's certain things
that Bear would do

341
00:18:04,387 --> 00:18:07,782
that I noticed that I would do
quite often.

342
00:18:07,825 --> 00:18:11,002
And so, it just made me wonder
if, you know,

343
00:18:11,046 --> 00:18:12,961
maybe he had that
and I know it's hereditary.

344
00:18:13,004 --> 00:18:15,485
Have a good day at school today.

345
00:18:15,529 --> 00:18:17,313
[slaps]

346
00:18:17,357 --> 00:18:21,187
<i>I will get a lot of phone calls</i>
<i>also from the school</i>

347
00:18:21,230 --> 00:18:24,625
<i>saying he hit a kid</i>
<i>or bit someone</i>

348
00:18:24,668 --> 00:18:26,931
<i>or, you know,</i>
<i>something like that.</i>

349
00:18:26,975 --> 00:18:29,717
<i>I'll have to pick him, </i>
<i>like leave work and pick him up</i>
<i>from school.</i>

350
00:18:32,589 --> 00:18:36,898
<i>It got so bad to the point</i>
<i>where something happened</i>

351
00:18:36,941 --> 00:18:41,381
<i>where he got in to it</i>
<i>with his friend and in class.</i>

352
00:18:41,424 --> 00:18:43,731
<i>The kid like took his glasses</i>
<i>and broke them.</i>

353
00:18:43,774 --> 00:18:46,951
<i>So, he took that kid's glasses</i>
<i>and... and threw them</i>
<i>on the floor.</i>

354
00:18:47,996 --> 00:18:53,349
<i>And then somehow the teacher</i>
<i>involved herself </i>
<i>and accidentally got scratched.</i>

355
00:18:53,393 --> 00:18:56,657
<i>And then I get this call</i>
<i>from the school principal</i>

356
00:18:56,700 --> 00:19:02,489
<i>saying, "Oh, Bear attacked</i>
<i>the teacher.</i>
<i>She's bleeding profusely."</i>

357
00:19:02,532 --> 00:19:06,884
And I'm like, "What!
What are you talking about?"
So, I get to the school.

358
00:19:06,928 --> 00:19:09,713
<i>And I see the teacher</i>
<i>has a tiny scratch,</i>

359
00:19:09,757 --> 00:19:13,543
<i>just not bleeding profusely,</i>
<i>just a little Band-Aid.</i>

360
00:19:13,587 --> 00:19:19,288
And, at that point, they wanted
Bear to be expelled
from school...

361
00:19:20,942 --> 00:19:24,032
<i>which means</i>
<i>he'll miss graduating.</i>

362
00:19:24,075 --> 00:19:29,037
I will never have the experience
of watching my son graduate
from kindergarten.

363
00:19:29,080 --> 00:19:35,043
And I'm still very, you know,
upset about that that he didn't
get that experience.

364
00:19:36,436 --> 00:19:41,005
As many as 5%
of American children
suffer from ADHD...

365
00:19:41,049 --> 00:19:42,485
[Amy] <i>Over the past decade</i>
<i>or two,</i>

366
00:19:42,529 --> 00:19:45,488
we've seen ADHD, uh,
diagnoses increase.

367
00:19:45,532 --> 00:19:49,840
ADHD diagnoses
in the United States
for school kids

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00:19:49,884 --> 00:19:52,626
has increased by 43%
in less than ten years.

369
00:19:52,669 --> 00:19:55,629
[Danielle] <i>That number continues</i>
<i>to rise every year.</i>

370
00:19:55,672 --> 00:19:57,892
And chances are you probably
know someone who has it.

371
00:19:57,935 --> 00:19:59,502
Is this an epidemic
that we're talking about here?

372
00:19:59,546 --> 00:20:01,243
It, well, certainly,
feels like that.

373
00:20:01,287 --> 00:20:06,509
ADHD is found in around
9% of American schoolchildren.

374
00:20:06,553 --> 00:20:11,122
And that makes it
one of the most common diagnoses
in childhood.

375
00:20:11,166 --> 00:20:13,908
[mellow music playing]

376
00:20:15,649 --> 00:20:17,303
[Dave] <i>We believe that ADHD,</i>

377
00:20:17,346 --> 00:20:20,088
when we look at surveys
across the world, universally,

378
00:20:20,131 --> 00:20:26,921
it seems like about 5%
of the population has clinically
relevant ADHD symptoms.

379
00:20:26,964 --> 00:20:32,883
[Francine] <i>In other parts of the</i>
<i>world, they're about 2 to 3%</i>
<i>or even less.</i>

380
00:20:32,927 --> 00:20:34,711
[Dave] <i>In America,</i>
<i>that number is higher.</i>

381
00:20:40,456 --> 00:20:45,244
[Amy] <i>It could be that</i>
<i>clinicians are becoming better</i>
<i>at diagnosing ADHD.</i>

382
00:20:45,287 --> 00:20:47,028
<i>They have better tools</i>
<i>for diagnosing it,</i>

383
00:20:47,071 --> 00:20:49,770
<i>the definition</i>
<i>has become clearer.</i>

384
00:20:49,813 --> 00:20:51,859
There's better education
for clinicians.

385
00:20:53,339 --> 00:20:56,167
[Yamalis] <i>We can actually</i>
<i>identify these children</i>

386
00:20:56,211 --> 00:20:58,822
<i>and really course correct</i>
<i>some of the trajectory</i>

387
00:20:58,866 --> 00:21:01,477
that they would have been on
if they didn't get
the diagnosis.

388
00:21:04,480 --> 00:21:10,834
[Dale] <i>If we're looking at a</i>
<i>disorder that affects 10%</i>
<i>of the population,</i>

389
00:21:10,878 --> 00:21:13,359
is that really a disorder?

390
00:21:13,402 --> 00:21:15,012
Or is that a variant of normal?

391
00:21:15,056 --> 00:21:18,233
People interpret a rise
in diagnosis and treatment

392
00:21:18,277 --> 00:21:20,322
as somehow,
we must be getting it wrong,

393
00:21:20,366 --> 00:21:22,933
and we're over-diagnosing
and we just don't have evidence
of that.

394
00:21:24,021 --> 00:21:26,110
<i>Take a standpoint</i>
<i>of public health.</i>

395
00:21:26,154 --> 00:21:29,810
<i>We want to be reaching</i>
<i>as many people as possible.</i>

396
00:21:32,943 --> 00:21:35,337
<i>If there was a rise in diagnosis</i>
<i>of breast cancer,</i>

397
00:21:35,381 --> 00:21:37,600
we'd be celebrating that
because we'd be saying

398
00:21:37,644 --> 00:21:40,603
"Yes, more women are doing
self-exams

399
00:21:40,647 --> 00:21:43,911
"and getting their...
their examinations."

400
00:21:43,954 --> 00:21:50,309
<i>And so, a rise in the</i>
<i>identification and treatment </i>
<i>of people is actually good news.</i>

401
00:21:54,400 --> 00:21:58,708
Hi, my name is Rece Miller
and I have ADHD.

402
00:21:58,752 --> 00:22:00,928
[mellow music playing]

403
00:22:00,971 --> 00:22:02,495
[Bart] <i>When Rece was born,</i>

404
00:22:02,538 --> 00:22:04,192
<i>across the river</i>
<i>was a baseball game</i>

405
00:22:04,235 --> 00:22:06,586
<i>- and fireworks were going off.</i>
- [crowd cheering]

406
00:22:06,629 --> 00:22:09,240
<i>That's probably the first thing</i>
<i>he saw as a child,</i>

407
00:22:09,284 --> 00:22:11,765
<i>were the fireworks</i>
<i>flying up in the sky.</i>

408
00:22:11,808 --> 00:22:15,159
- [Jean] <i>And out came the</i>
<i>firework himself right there.</i>
- He was like...

409
00:22:15,203 --> 00:22:17,553
- He was like the explosion.
- It was.

410
00:22:17,597 --> 00:22:19,425
- That's when it all started.
- [both chuckle]

411
00:22:20,948 --> 00:22:24,908
[Jean] <i>We knew fairly soon</i>
<i>after he was born,</i>

412
00:22:24,952 --> 00:22:29,522
that there was something
totally challenging about him.

413
00:22:29,565 --> 00:22:32,394
- Holly, what's the name of
the cartoon [inaudible]?
- Shut up!

414
00:22:32,438 --> 00:22:34,831
[laughing hysterically]

415
00:22:34,875 --> 00:22:37,834
[Bart] <i>The energy level</i>
<i>was unbelievable.</i>

416
00:22:37,878 --> 00:22:40,402
The more he would go,
the more he would go. [chuckles]

417
00:22:40,446 --> 00:22:43,449
<i>You know, he was like, you know</i>
<i>they talk about</i>
<i>the Energizer Bunny.</i>

418
00:22:43,492 --> 00:22:45,581
<i>Well, that was...</i>
<i>that was Rece.</i>

419
00:22:46,713 --> 00:22:50,020
- [Jean] His battery never died.
- Never died.
- Never died.

420
00:22:50,064 --> 00:22:53,415
[Jean] <i>And, literally, if he got</i>
<i>tired, he got more active.</i>

421
00:22:53,459 --> 00:22:55,635
- [Bart] <i>He got faster.</i>
- [Jean] <i>Faster.</i>

422
00:22:55,678 --> 00:22:57,158
[thuds and grunts]

423
00:22:57,201 --> 00:22:59,421
[Jean] And when you're old...
[chuckles]

424
00:22:59,465 --> 00:23:00,857
- You're older parents...
- Here we go.

425
00:23:00,901 --> 00:23:02,642
...we were, like,
"I just want a nap.

426
00:23:02,685 --> 00:23:05,340
Please just let...
a little sleep."

427
00:23:05,384 --> 00:23:07,473
I'm definitely misunderstood.

428
00:23:07,516 --> 00:23:09,605
But, I also like
being a troublemaker.

429
00:23:09,649 --> 00:23:13,043
It's fun. It's really fun.

430
00:23:13,087 --> 00:23:15,350
[indistinct chatter]

431
00:23:18,832 --> 00:23:21,965
I was looking at the picture
and I was playing and go,

432
00:23:22,009 --> 00:23:26,448
"Whoa, I... I'm actually seeing
stores like in the cartoons."

433
00:23:27,362 --> 00:23:29,233
[Haley] It's a real thing.

434
00:23:29,277 --> 00:23:33,150
[Jean] <i>Diagnosed ADHD in our</i>
<i>family, obviously, Rece,</i>

435
00:23:33,194 --> 00:23:34,630
my son, Dylan...

436
00:23:35,849 --> 00:23:40,941
<i>my daughter, Haley,</i>
<i>Bart, and me.</i>

437
00:23:43,117 --> 00:23:46,512
[mellow music playing]

438
00:23:48,731 --> 00:23:50,994
[Russell]
<i>If you have one ADHD child,</i>

439
00:23:51,038 --> 00:23:54,302
then the risk
to the other children is 35%.

440
00:23:54,345 --> 00:23:57,261
That is seven times higher
than the general population.

441
00:24:09,839 --> 00:24:11,275
[Jean] Did you hear your alarm?

442
00:24:13,756 --> 00:24:16,193
- [Rece] What's that?
- [Jean] Did you hear your alarm?

443
00:24:16,237 --> 00:24:18,195
- Yeah. I turned it off.
- [Jean] Okay.

444
00:24:19,370 --> 00:24:21,590
[Bart] <i>Most of the things that</i>
<i>go wrong in the mornings</i>

445
00:24:21,634 --> 00:24:24,593
<i>and everywhere often are tied</i>
<i>in transitioning.</i>

446
00:24:24,637 --> 00:24:26,682
<i>You know, he...</i>
<i>he's so slow to react.</i>

447
00:24:26,726 --> 00:24:30,773
Like, if we're in a big hurry,
I think he goes slower.

448
00:24:30,817 --> 00:24:32,558
Yeah.

449
00:24:32,601 --> 00:24:36,562
As I always say, when he hears
the word "hurry" and he goes...

450
00:24:36,605 --> 00:24:39,173
- He's like... He's just...
- He slows down.

451
00:24:42,698 --> 00:24:45,571
[Bart] <i>The reminders are huge</i>
<i>because it's...</i>

452
00:24:45,614 --> 00:24:49,139
it's almost like every day
is a clean slate,
you know, for him.

453
00:24:50,576 --> 00:24:52,752
[Rece] <i>I have a lot of notes</i>
<i>around the house.</i>

454
00:24:52,795 --> 00:24:55,972
And, keep in mind,
this is just to get...

455
00:24:56,016 --> 00:24:59,889
This is just to get me out
of the house and go to school.

456
00:24:59,933 --> 00:25:01,935
Let me show you one of them.

457
00:25:01,978 --> 00:25:05,329
Like, one of them is
"Do you have everything
for a great day?"

458
00:25:05,373 --> 00:25:08,158
I was like, "Mom, what
the heck's wrong with you?
I don't need all these notes."

459
00:25:08,202 --> 00:25:09,943
She was, like, "Yes, you do."

460
00:25:09,986 --> 00:25:12,641
Then one day I didn't look
at the notes and I forgot stuff.

461
00:25:12,685 --> 00:25:15,296
So, need to run back home
to get stuff.

462
00:25:15,339 --> 00:25:16,689
And then we need
to go to school.

463
00:25:16,732 --> 00:25:18,908
So, turns out that notes
actually work.

464
00:25:18,952 --> 00:25:21,650
- No, I'm gonna check the outside
to see if there is a hole.
- [Bart] No, I'll find it

465
00:25:21,694 --> 00:25:24,044
Daddy will do it.
You just please relax.

466
00:25:24,087 --> 00:25:24,914
- What?
- [door closes]

467
00:25:26,655 --> 00:25:28,483
[Bart] <i>Some mornings it's,</i>
<i>you know, all of a sudden,</i>

468
00:25:28,527 --> 00:25:31,486
<i>I can't take anymore and I'm...</i>
<i>I'm yelling at him.</i>

469
00:25:31,530 --> 00:25:34,576
And I'm like,
"Rece, what is wrong with you?
Why are you...?"

470
00:25:34,620 --> 00:25:38,362
You know, and he... he'll come
back with something, like,
"Everything, Dad."

471
00:25:38,406 --> 00:25:40,451
And then I immediately
feel awful.

472
00:25:40,495 --> 00:25:42,584
- What? You're behind.
- Right.

473
00:25:42,628 --> 00:25:46,327
Let's go. Shoes. Coat.

474
00:25:47,633 --> 00:25:49,286
[sighs]

475
00:25:49,330 --> 00:25:51,680
- Love you, Dad.
- Love you.

476
00:25:51,724 --> 00:25:53,290
See you after school.

477
00:25:53,334 --> 00:25:54,683
- Are you good?
- Yep.

478
00:25:54,727 --> 00:25:56,337
See you in a couple of hours.
Okay.

479
00:25:57,643 --> 00:25:59,819
I love you.
I wish I could take you
to school,

480
00:25:59,862 --> 00:26:01,211
you and Carson
would get along great.

481
00:26:01,255 --> 00:26:03,257
- [Jean] Rece. Seriously.
- I'm talking.

482
00:26:03,300 --> 00:26:05,215
Go, go, go.

483
00:26:06,739 --> 00:26:07,609
Okay.

484
00:26:08,915 --> 00:26:11,961
So, if it's been a horrifying
morning, often,

485
00:26:12,005 --> 00:26:18,141
um, I've gone back to school
and written a quick note,

486
00:26:18,185 --> 00:26:20,927
and asked the Secretary
to give it to him...

487
00:26:25,671 --> 00:26:27,455
because I could be very ugly.

488
00:26:28,456 --> 00:26:33,461
Um, and I want him to know that
it's okay and I love him.

489
00:26:33,504 --> 00:26:36,551
[mellow music playing]

490
00:26:38,118 --> 00:26:41,164
[grunting]

491
00:26:44,907 --> 00:26:46,735
[man 7] Good.

492
00:26:46,779 --> 00:26:48,824
[Ned] <i>We diagnose ADHD</i>
<i>more in boys than in girls,</i>

493
00:26:48,868 --> 00:26:51,610
because boys tend to be
disruptive.

494
00:26:53,829 --> 00:26:57,180
[man 7]
One at a time. Not bad, not bad.
Switch your partners, please.

495
00:26:58,791 --> 00:27:02,359
[Dale] <i>Hyperactivity is the</i>
<i>hallmark of the diagnosis</i>
<i>in many school systems.</i>

496
00:27:02,403 --> 00:27:04,187
<i>So, girls don't do that.</i>

497
00:27:05,319 --> 00:27:08,191
More than likely, as a girl,

498
00:27:08,235 --> 00:27:11,673
you're not going
to get diagnosed
and often you get misdiagnosed.

499
00:27:13,370 --> 00:27:15,982
[Amy] <i>Girls fidget a lot,</i>
<i>they may bite their nails,</i>

500
00:27:16,025 --> 00:27:19,507
they may twist their hair,
they may tap their toe,
but nobody sees it.

501
00:27:20,551 --> 00:27:22,205
[Ned] <i>They're the daydreamer.</i>

502
00:27:22,249 --> 00:27:23,990
<i>They're the girl that sits</i>
<i>in the back of the class</i>

503
00:27:24,033 --> 00:27:27,210
<i>staring out the window</i>
<i>lost in her thoughts.</i>

504
00:27:27,254 --> 00:27:33,477
Usually, they are pretty smart,
so that they can use
their intellect to compensate.

505
00:27:33,521 --> 00:27:37,525
<i>And it's only if you can get</i>
<i>a window into their inner life</i>

506
00:27:37,568 --> 00:27:40,136
<i>that you're going to find out</i>
<i>that they're struggling.</i>

507
00:27:41,877 --> 00:27:45,359
Hi, this is Zara
and I've been having
a really hard week.

508
00:27:45,402 --> 00:27:48,144
It hasn't been going too well.
I've been worrying a lot.

509
00:27:48,188 --> 00:27:52,540
And because I've been worrying
I feel I've been slacking a lot
in my homework.

510
00:27:52,583 --> 00:27:55,325
That's been giving me
a lot of stress.

511
00:27:55,369 --> 00:27:57,066
My life is a mess.

512
00:27:59,503 --> 00:28:02,202
- [Kristin] Hey,
how are you, cutie?
- [Zara] I'm good. How are you?

513
00:28:02,245 --> 00:28:04,639
- [Kristin] Good.
Good to see you.
- It's good to see you.

514
00:28:04,683 --> 00:28:07,120
- What did you bring?
- I brought my writing with me.
- [Kristin sighs]

515
00:28:08,512 --> 00:28:11,211
So, since I saw you
I guess like a month ago,

516
00:28:11,254 --> 00:28:12,952
you were going to work
on a schedule.

517
00:28:12,995 --> 00:28:16,216
- Which I did. Check.
- And bring your writing...

518
00:28:16,259 --> 00:28:19,175
<i>Zara was referred to me</i>
<i>by a colleague of mine.</i>

519
00:28:19,219 --> 00:28:22,918
She said,
"This will be a wasted brain..."

520
00:28:22,962 --> 00:28:25,791
were her quotes,
"...if we do not help her."

521
00:28:25,834 --> 00:28:28,750
I know you told me
in our first meeting

522
00:28:28,794 --> 00:28:32,841
that a big concern
and issue is the time.

523
00:28:32,885 --> 00:28:34,713
- Like, how you manage the time?
- Yeah.

524
00:28:34,756 --> 00:28:37,063
- Right?
- Yeah, that's true.

525
00:28:37,106 --> 00:28:39,456
Would you say, it's probably
the biggest source
of friction and frustration?

526
00:28:39,500 --> 00:28:42,895
Yes, because I fail
to manage my time

527
00:28:42,938 --> 00:28:46,725
I noticed that has put a lot of
tension in my family.

528
00:28:46,768 --> 00:28:48,465
Okay. So...

529
00:28:48,509 --> 00:28:51,860
Every morning my
[inaudible] was like
living hell.

530
00:28:51,904 --> 00:28:55,690
My mom... I would do something,
it would tick my mother off

531
00:28:55,734 --> 00:28:59,781
and then, like, a bomb,
she would explode.

532
00:28:59,825 --> 00:29:03,959
And when I mean explode
she'd start lecturing me
and telling me do this do that.

533
00:29:07,789 --> 00:29:09,660
[man 8] No? Okay.

534
00:29:17,103 --> 00:29:20,149
- So, I think that if we can
master this this summer...
- Mm-hmm.

535
00:29:20,193 --> 00:29:23,457
...and really get our ADLs
that means activities
of daily living,

536
00:29:23,500 --> 00:29:26,808
brushing teeth, eating,
things like that down pat,

537
00:29:26,852 --> 00:29:29,811
that you will be in a better way
going to the school.

538
00:29:29,855 --> 00:29:30,986
- The new school.
- Okay.

539
00:29:31,030 --> 00:29:32,509
- Are you so excited?
- Yeah.

540
00:29:32,553 --> 00:29:34,773
- About the new school?
- Yeah. In fact...

541
00:29:34,816 --> 00:29:36,862
I love the family.
There are a great case.

542
00:29:36,905 --> 00:29:38,733
But this is one of my most
challenging cases.

543
00:29:38,777 --> 00:29:40,213
Okay, so, Khuda Hafiz,
have a good day.

544
00:29:40,256 --> 00:29:42,215
- Okay. Hafiz.
- Be good.
- I will.

545
00:29:42,258 --> 00:29:45,131
[Kristin] <i>Savera wants nothing</i>
<i>more than for her daughter</i>

546
00:29:45,174 --> 00:29:48,264
<i>to be happy</i>
<i>and have a well-adjusted life.</i>

547
00:29:48,308 --> 00:29:52,094
<i>However, the impacts</i>
<i>and coming to terms with</i>

548
00:29:52,138 --> 00:29:55,619
<i>this diagnosis of ADHD has</i>
<i>caused Savera great distress.</i>

549
00:29:55,663 --> 00:29:56,925
[kid 2] Have a good day at work.

550
00:29:57,883 --> 00:30:01,321
Sixth grade
was a tough year for us.

551
00:30:03,105 --> 00:30:06,630
<i>There are certain basic</i>
<i>general traits, expectations,</i>

552
00:30:06,674 --> 00:30:09,851
<i>that are associated</i>
<i>with a 13-year-old child.</i>

553
00:30:09,895 --> 00:30:13,376
<i>And a certain set of skills </i>
<i>should be attained by that age.</i>

554
00:30:13,420 --> 00:30:17,076
<i>And when your child</i>
<i>is not matching up with that,</i>

555
00:30:17,119 --> 00:30:19,905
you know
that there's something wrong.

556
00:30:19,948 --> 00:30:22,864
Do you want to still...?
You can do it, but just keep it
from the leash.

557
00:30:22,908 --> 00:30:26,302
[Russell] <i>You know, parents</i>
<i>often recognize earlier</i>
<i>than anybody else</i>

558
00:30:26,346 --> 00:30:29,088
<i>that something's wrong,</i>
<i>something's different.</i>

559
00:30:29,131 --> 00:30:33,222
That can start to lead
to tension in that relationship.

560
00:30:33,266 --> 00:30:37,226
<i>Maybe I just have to step up</i>
<i>my discipline</i>
<i>and apply it more quickly,</i>

561
00:30:37,270 --> 00:30:41,883
<i>and become more commanding,</i>
<i>and controlling, </i>
<i>and then this child will get it.</i>

562
00:30:41,927 --> 00:30:45,147
And so, the level of conflict
starts to go up

563
00:30:45,191 --> 00:30:49,238
because the child starts
to react to that
in a negative way.

564
00:30:49,282 --> 00:30:53,068
- Ahem, okay,
I brought my stuff for later.
- Okay.

565
00:30:53,112 --> 00:30:56,419
- What's the password?
- Let me type the password in.

566
00:30:58,030 --> 00:30:59,466
Come here.

567
00:30:59,509 --> 00:31:01,511
[Adeel]
<i>ADHD wasn't even on our radar</i>

568
00:31:01,555 --> 00:31:03,209
<i>because we didn't really</i>
<i>believe in it.</i>

569
00:31:03,252 --> 00:31:06,212
A big part of me thought
it was a bogus diagnosis.

570
00:31:06,255 --> 00:31:11,304
I, frankly, thought that ADHD
was about hyperactive children,

571
00:31:11,347 --> 00:31:14,916
particularly boys
who were literally
bouncing off the walls.

572
00:31:17,440 --> 00:31:20,879
[Adeel] <i>As the year went on,</i>
<i>there were just more</i>
<i>and more issues.</i>

573
00:31:22,445 --> 00:31:25,187
[Savera] <i>Every day there was</i>
<i>either a phone call</i>
<i>from the school</i>

574
00:31:25,231 --> 00:31:27,450
<i>or an email from the teachers.</i>

575
00:31:27,494 --> 00:31:30,932
<i>If it's not regarding her</i>
<i>late turning in homework,</i>

576
00:31:30,976 --> 00:31:34,022
<i>or forgetting her homework</i>
<i>or not following</i>
<i>the morning routine,</i>

577
00:31:34,066 --> 00:31:35,850
<i>seven months into sixth grade,</i>

578
00:31:35,894 --> 00:31:39,419
it was then about
the social side of the school.

579
00:31:39,462 --> 00:31:43,075
[soft music playing]

580
00:31:54,434 --> 00:31:57,350
Around this time we were
seeing issues with impulsivity

581
00:31:57,393 --> 00:31:59,134
and seeing things
that you shouldn't,

582
00:31:59,178 --> 00:32:01,180
and sometimes to the point
of being hurtful,

583
00:32:01,223 --> 00:32:03,878
and... and, you know,
like of hurting others.

584
00:32:03,922 --> 00:32:06,272
[indistinct dialogue]

585
00:32:06,315 --> 00:32:09,318
[Savera] <i>And I told her that</i>
<i>when you behave this way,</i>

586
00:32:09,362 --> 00:32:13,366
<i>you are making us</i>
<i>as a family,</i>
<i>you're making us look bad.</i>

587
00:32:13,409 --> 00:32:15,934
<i>You're sending</i>
<i>very negative vibes out there</i>

588
00:32:15,977 --> 00:32:18,458
<i>about us as a family</i>
<i>and about yourself.</i>

589
00:32:19,328 --> 00:32:24,116
<i>It has a toll</i>
<i>on your entire house,</i>
<i>everyone's relationship...</i>

590
00:32:25,552 --> 00:32:31,340
<i>because the overall tone </i>
<i>is constant frustration, anger,</i>
<i>and anxiety, basically.</i>

591
00:32:31,384 --> 00:32:36,650
Have a great day.
Take time to do your test. Okay?

592
00:32:38,130 --> 00:32:39,566
Why are you acting like that?

593
00:32:41,481 --> 00:32:42,961
Why?

594
00:32:44,658 --> 00:32:47,922
[Ned] <i>The danger in missing</i>
<i>this diagnosis in girls</i>

595
00:32:47,966 --> 00:32:52,144
<i>is... is a lifetime</i>
<i>of underachievement,</i>
<i>depression, anxiety.</i>

596
00:32:53,362 --> 00:32:55,147
And I see it all the time.

597
00:32:56,104 --> 00:32:59,499
[Eliza] You are well on your way
to a cooperation point tonight.

598
00:32:59,542 --> 00:33:02,110
- So, if you want you can...
- Mm-hmm.

599
00:33:02,154 --> 00:33:04,417
Do you wanna mark it
on your thing?

600
00:33:06,941 --> 00:33:10,945
So, when my son was diagnosed,
the psychologist,

601
00:33:10,989 --> 00:33:16,255
and she's running through
what was the results of nine
hours of testing that he had,

602
00:33:16,298 --> 00:33:19,040
<i>and I was like,</i>
<i>some large percent</i>

603
00:33:19,084 --> 00:33:23,871
<i>of what you just read to me</i>
<i>resonates very deeply with me.</i>

604
00:33:23,914 --> 00:33:26,178
But, you were talking
about my son.

605
00:33:28,832 --> 00:33:30,530
[sighs]

606
00:33:30,573 --> 00:33:34,273
<i>It's the distractibility</i>
<i>and the impulsivity,</i>

607
00:33:34,316 --> 00:33:38,451
<i>interrupting or saying</i>
<i>the wrong thing.</i>

608
00:33:38,494 --> 00:33:41,062
I have to say what I'm thinking
when I'm thinking it,

609
00:33:41,106 --> 00:33:43,238
and I have a really hard time
not saying it

610
00:33:43,282 --> 00:33:48,113
and then I go,
"Oh, that was not
a good decision."

611
00:33:48,156 --> 00:33:49,984
Let's go play basketball
right now.

612
00:33:50,028 --> 00:33:52,552
All right. Let me just look
at these work text messages.

613
00:33:52,595 --> 00:33:55,163
How long is it gonna take?
[sighs]

614
00:33:56,251 --> 00:34:01,169
[Eliza] <i>My kids get really</i>
<i>frustrated because</i>
<i>I'm not a great listener.</i>

615
00:34:01,213 --> 00:34:06,218
Um, so, like, they'll talk
to me and then I'll interrupt.

616
00:34:06,261 --> 00:34:08,002
[kid 1]
You always look at your call.

617
00:34:08,046 --> 00:34:10,918
I know, I just want to respond
to the... I know, honey.

618
00:34:10,961 --> 00:34:12,615
<i>And my memory is just terrible.</i>

619
00:34:12,659 --> 00:34:14,661
I mean, I wonder if I have
like early Alzheimer's.

620
00:34:14,704 --> 00:34:16,837
I mean, I've literally
had these thoughts.

621
00:34:16,880 --> 00:34:20,319
Do I... Am I in dementia?
Like, what is going on?

622
00:34:24,845 --> 00:34:27,543
<i>I... I drank in the morning.</i>

623
00:34:27,587 --> 00:34:29,937
[laughs]

624
00:34:29,980 --> 00:34:32,635
I do not drink in the morning.

625
00:34:32,679 --> 00:34:34,985
I do not drink in the morning.

626
00:34:35,029 --> 00:34:37,292
<i>I drink a lot of coffee</i>
<i>in the morning.</i>

627
00:34:38,337 --> 00:34:41,862
<i>I would drink probably</i>
<i>eight espressos a day.</i>

628
00:34:41,905 --> 00:34:45,039
And then I come home
and I drank at night.

629
00:34:46,040 --> 00:34:48,521
- No, [inaudible], Mom.
- [Eliza] Wanna play horse?

630
00:34:48,564 --> 00:34:50,610
[Nicholas]
Yeah, I want to go first.

631
00:34:51,524 --> 00:34:54,440
[Eliza] <i>And it got to the point</i>
<i>where I was struggling</i>

632
00:34:54,483 --> 00:34:57,269
<i>to get through a week</i>
<i>without drinking every night.</i>

633
00:34:58,270 --> 00:34:59,793
[kid 1] Make it seem...

634
00:34:59,836 --> 00:35:03,449
If you have ADHD,
it is pretty common

635
00:35:03,492 --> 00:35:08,497
for you to also have
some element of depression
and some element of anxiety.

636
00:35:09,411 --> 00:35:15,330
<i>Every aspect of life</i>
<i>can be negatively affected </i>
<i>by undiagnosed ADHD, everything.</i>

637
00:35:15,374 --> 00:35:19,160
I never feel like
I have it all together
and I feel like...

638
00:35:22,207 --> 00:35:25,035
I've put on
a really good show. Um...

639
00:35:26,689 --> 00:35:29,866
Marriage,
divorce rate is way higher.

640
00:35:29,910 --> 00:35:33,043
Uh, achievement at work,
typically underachieved.

641
00:35:34,044 --> 00:35:39,398
Substance use, big problem,
way more common in people
with ADHD.

642
00:35:39,441 --> 00:35:43,010
I drank myself to slow down.

643
00:35:43,053 --> 00:35:46,927
I was just self-medicating
and I didn't know why.

644
00:35:46,970 --> 00:35:49,277
I used to watch the way people
would navigate socially.

645
00:35:49,321 --> 00:35:51,888
And I would think like,
"Wow, how did they do that?"

646
00:35:51,932 --> 00:35:55,065
Um, and you know, for me,
alcohol was a good way
to manage it.

647
00:35:55,109 --> 00:35:57,546
If your mind is going
a million miles an hour,

648
00:35:57,590 --> 00:36:01,811
and you take something that
slows you down and relaxes you,

649
00:36:01,855 --> 00:36:05,380
you know, why wouldn't you
want to do that all the time?

650
00:36:05,424 --> 00:36:07,513
People do think of it
as a deficit.

651
00:36:07,556 --> 00:36:11,125
I... I would really question
whether that's really
a correct model.

652
00:36:11,169 --> 00:36:14,084
[indistinct chatter]

653
00:36:14,128 --> 00:36:18,915
[Gail] <i>There are some</i>
<i>very amazing things about</i>
<i>the ADHD brain.</i>

654
00:36:18,959 --> 00:36:20,961
[Eliza] You know, this is kind
of first time that

655
00:36:21,004 --> 00:36:23,616
our modules
have been cross utilized...

656
00:36:23,659 --> 00:36:28,055
[Gail] <i>Coming up with </i>
<i>connections between things that</i>
<i>other people would not see.</i>

657
00:36:28,098 --> 00:36:29,622
[Eliza]
Why don't we do marketing?

658
00:36:29,665 --> 00:36:33,016
You know, stepping back,
and like, envisioning

659
00:36:33,060 --> 00:36:35,584
why things aren't working
and how you can do it better.

660
00:36:36,498 --> 00:36:40,981
And then executing that
at a big picture scale.

661
00:36:41,024 --> 00:36:42,025
Really good at that.

662
00:36:43,940 --> 00:36:48,423
[Gail] <i>Some of the most creative</i>
<i>innovators of our time</i>

663
00:36:48,467 --> 00:36:53,820
<i>in the sciences, in music,</i>
<i>in art, in business</i>

664
00:36:53,863 --> 00:36:58,346
turned out to have many
of the symptoms of ADHD.

665
00:36:58,390 --> 00:37:01,697
<i>And we benefit today</i>
<i>from their discoveries,</i>

666
00:37:01,741 --> 00:37:03,656
<i>from their productions,</i>

667
00:37:03,699 --> 00:37:06,136
<i>and it's made us a richer,</i>
<i>richer society.</i>

668
00:37:07,312 --> 00:37:10,140
[mellow music playing]

669
00:37:10,184 --> 00:37:12,534
[Ned] <i>The core triad of symptoms</i>

670
00:37:12,578 --> 00:37:17,191
<i>are distractibility, </i>
<i>impulsivity, and hyperactivity.</i>

671
00:37:17,235 --> 00:37:21,630
But if you turn each one
of those on its head,
you get a positive.

672
00:37:21,674 --> 00:37:25,591
<i>The flipside of distractibility</i>
<i>is curiosity.</i>

673
00:37:25,634 --> 00:37:27,419
What's that? What's that?
What's that?

674
00:37:27,462 --> 00:37:29,725
If you didn't care,
you wouldn't get distracted.

675
00:37:29,769 --> 00:37:32,424
But you want to,
so, we're driven by curiosity.

676
00:37:32,467 --> 00:37:34,730
It just started snowing.

677
00:37:34,774 --> 00:37:36,906
[Ned] <i>Sometimes it gets us</i>
<i>into trouble</i>
<i>because we're too nosy,</i>

678
00:37:36,950 --> 00:37:38,995
but sometimes
we discover penicillin.

679
00:37:39,039 --> 00:37:45,306
I just decided that I was going
to put some bowls
just like that.

680
00:37:45,350 --> 00:37:47,656
And I wanted to collect
a bunch of snow

681
00:37:47,700 --> 00:37:51,791
because I'm trying to make
this like ice cream stuff
that you make a snowman.

682
00:37:51,834 --> 00:37:53,401
It never snows in Texas.

683
00:37:54,968 --> 00:37:58,972
[Ned] <i>The flipside of </i>
<i>impulsivity, what is creativity?</i>

684
00:37:59,015 --> 00:38:01,104
<i>But impulsivity gone right?</i>

685
00:38:01,148 --> 00:38:03,629
You don't plan to have
a creative thought.

686
00:38:03,672 --> 00:38:07,285
You don't say. "It's 2:00,
time for my creative idea."
And lay it like an egg? No.

687
00:38:07,328 --> 00:38:08,677
[stammers]

688
00:38:08,721 --> 00:38:10,984
New ideas,
brilliant new insights,

689
00:38:11,027 --> 00:38:14,509
come unbidden spontaneously,
impulsively.

690
00:38:14,553 --> 00:38:17,469
"I'm from rough Mongolian
mountaintops to soft Silk Roads

691
00:38:17,512 --> 00:38:19,775
"ancestors who kill
not knowing better.

692
00:38:19,819 --> 00:38:23,605
"I'm Zara from Pakistan, India,
Afghanistan, Mongolia
and Norway. I'm..."

693
00:38:23,649 --> 00:38:25,433
[Kristin]
<i>Zara is a brilliant writer.</i>

694
00:38:25,477 --> 00:38:29,350
Her poems, her writings are that

695
00:38:29,394 --> 00:38:32,397
they're more superb
than students I've seen
in graduate school.

696
00:38:32,440 --> 00:38:33,615
No exaggeration.

697
00:38:35,617 --> 00:38:38,054
[Ned] <i>And then the third,</i>
<i>hyperactivity,</i>

698
00:38:38,098 --> 00:38:41,101
you get to be my age,
I'm 70 years old,
it's called energy.

699
00:38:42,842 --> 00:38:46,411
You know I'm really glad
to have this little turbo pack
on my back.

700
00:38:46,454 --> 00:38:49,762
So, you know, again,
in keeping with the way I see it

701
00:38:49,805 --> 00:38:52,025
it's a mixture of positives
and negatives.

702
00:38:52,068 --> 00:38:54,854
Yes, distractibility,
impulsivity, hyperactivity,

703
00:38:54,897 --> 00:38:57,378
can be disruptive,
can be an impediment.

704
00:38:57,422 --> 00:39:01,251
But, their flipside
are tremendous, inborn assets.

705
00:39:02,862 --> 00:39:04,907
[David]
<i>I think my ADD superpower</i>

706
00:39:04,951 --> 00:39:09,390
<i>is the ability to look</i>
<i>at very complex situations</i>

707
00:39:09,434 --> 00:39:12,001
and find simple solutions to it.

708
00:39:12,045 --> 00:39:15,222
Things that others have just
said it's just too difficult.

709
00:39:15,265 --> 00:39:17,703
It... it's just not easy.

710
00:39:17,746 --> 00:39:21,097
And they will test you
and they will provoke you
and they will break rules.

711
00:39:21,141 --> 00:39:24,884
You've now become this big
businesswoman, aren't you?
17 product lines.

712
00:39:24,927 --> 00:39:26,407
You're going to start
a hotel chain.

713
00:39:26,451 --> 00:39:28,496
- Not a Hilton chain, your one.
- Yes.

714
00:39:28,540 --> 00:39:30,542
This is big business.

715
00:39:30,585 --> 00:39:32,935
[Paris] <i>I think it's made me</i>
<i>the businesswoman I am today.</i>

716
00:39:32,979 --> 00:39:35,503
I'm a risk taker. I'm creative.

717
00:39:35,547 --> 00:39:37,200
My mind is always moving.

718
00:39:37,244 --> 00:39:39,377
I'm always thinking
of new ways to do business.

719
00:39:39,420 --> 00:39:43,076
And I think it really just
gives me this drive
and this edge.

720
00:39:43,119 --> 00:39:44,991
[crowd cheering]

721
00:39:45,034 --> 00:39:47,210
[Ned] <i>And you just want to</i>
<i>get them through it alive</i>

722
00:39:47,254 --> 00:39:51,345
with their self-esteem intact,
with their... with their liking
themselves.

723
00:39:51,389 --> 00:39:53,565
One, two, one, two, bam,
bam, bam, bam, bam.

724
00:39:53,608 --> 00:39:56,568
<i>The fact that I have</i>
<i>all these things going on</i>
<i>inside my head</i>

725
00:39:56,611 --> 00:39:59,440
I have an advantage
that other people don't.

726
00:39:59,484 --> 00:40:03,226
[whirring]

727
00:40:03,270 --> 00:40:05,315
[Yamalis] <i>Sometimes I describe</i>
<i>the superpower</i>

728
00:40:05,359 --> 00:40:08,797
<i>of having like five computers</i>
<i>hooked up to one monitor.</i>

729
00:40:08,841 --> 00:40:12,061
<i>And so your brain</i>
<i>is just constantly</i>
<i>taking in information,</i>

730
00:40:12,105 --> 00:40:15,978
processing data,
spitting out things
like ready to go.

731
00:40:16,022 --> 00:40:18,285
So that's a huge superpower.

732
00:40:18,328 --> 00:40:20,809
[Glenn] <i>And processing what's</i>
<i>happening with the camera,</i>

733
00:40:20,853 --> 00:40:23,899
and all of these screens
in front of me,

734
00:40:23,943 --> 00:40:25,727
<i>plus, the teleprompter.</i>

735
00:40:25,771 --> 00:40:31,429
And, uh, the only reason why
I can do it is because of ADHD.

736
00:40:31,472 --> 00:40:34,475
And the more intense it gets,
the better I am.

737
00:40:34,519 --> 00:40:36,434
- [Tommy] Hi.
- [Lisa] How are you? I'm Lisa.

738
00:40:36,477 --> 00:40:39,437
- Tommy, Tommy Gunn.
- Nice to meet you.
- My pleasure.

739
00:40:39,480 --> 00:40:43,702
[Gail] <i>They are the ones</i>
<i>who are willing to really push</i>

740
00:40:43,745 --> 00:40:46,835
<i>and take a chance and see it</i>
<i>all the way through.</i>

741
00:40:47,793 --> 00:40:49,795
[splashes]

742
00:40:49,838 --> 00:40:52,188
That was by far the most
insane thing
I've ever done in my life.

743
00:40:52,232 --> 00:40:56,018
Entrepreneurship is a natural
pathway for someone with ADHD

744
00:40:56,062 --> 00:41:01,937
because what people with ADHD
crave more than anything else
is freedom.

745
00:41:01,981 --> 00:41:04,636
[Gail]
<i>They think outside the box.</i>

746
00:41:04,679 --> 00:41:07,813
<i>They don't need to follow</i>
<i>all the rules the way the rest</i>
<i>of us do to get to the answer.</i>

747
00:41:07,856 --> 00:41:09,815
[James] <i>We change the way</i>
<i>campaigns were run</i>

748
00:41:09,858 --> 00:41:11,643
- and I think we're gonna win
tomorrow.
- [crowd cheering]

749
00:41:11,686 --> 00:41:15,821
[Ned] <i>They have resilience,</i>
<i>grit, big heartedness.</i>

750
00:41:15,864 --> 00:41:17,344
I'll teach you the bridge
after this interview.

751
00:41:17,387 --> 00:41:18,476
- Please do.
- [Justin] Okay.

752
00:41:18,519 --> 00:41:19,999
Because I can't figure it out.

753
00:41:20,042 --> 00:41:22,044
No, it's not that hard,
I'll teach it to you.

754
00:41:22,088 --> 00:41:26,005
[Yamalis] <i>Their sweet spot is </i>
<i>inflexible, creative, energetic.</i>

755
00:41:26,048 --> 00:41:27,485
[crowd cheering]

756
00:41:27,528 --> 00:41:29,182
Let's go, baby!

757
00:41:29,225 --> 00:41:31,445
[Yamalis]
<i>Multitasking types of settings.</i>

758
00:41:31,489 --> 00:41:33,186
<i>And so oftentimes,</i>

759
00:41:33,229 --> 00:41:37,495
<i>I see adults with ADHD</i>
<i>are in really creative fields.</i>

760
00:41:37,538 --> 00:41:39,627
[man 9] Look what she's doing
a back flip, back flip.

761
00:41:39,671 --> 00:41:42,630
Double, double! There it is.
That's the Biles!

762
00:41:42,674 --> 00:41:44,458
That's what
we've been waiting for.

763
00:41:46,068 --> 00:41:53,119
Hyper focus is probably
the best aspect of ADHD,
the greatest strike.

764
00:41:54,599 --> 00:41:56,339
[Gail] <i>What's important to</i>
<i>understand is</i>

765
00:41:56,383 --> 00:41:59,517
<i>that when something is</i>
<i>interesting, or exciting,</i>

766
00:41:59,560 --> 00:42:01,997
<i>or absorbing to the kid</i>
<i>with ADHD,</i>

767
00:42:02,041 --> 00:42:06,306
<i>their switch is not only</i>
<i>turned on,</i>
<i>it is on overdrive on.</i>

768
00:42:06,349 --> 00:42:07,742
<i>And what does that mean?</i>

769
00:42:07,786 --> 00:42:10,310
<i>It means that they can</i>
<i>hyper-focus.</i>

770
00:42:10,353 --> 00:42:13,618
Something that actually the rest
of us who want to focus on
might have difficulty doing.

771
00:42:13,661 --> 00:42:16,838
We're reaching 125 million
consumers, today.

772
00:42:16,882 --> 00:42:21,582
We're on 21 TV networks,
we're in 170,
out of home locations.

773
00:42:21,626 --> 00:42:23,802
<i>When I'm hyper-focused,</i>

774
00:42:23,845 --> 00:42:28,850
it doesn't matter
if a nuclear bomb is going off,
my house is on fire.

775
00:42:28,894 --> 00:42:31,026
I... I won the lottery.

776
00:42:31,070 --> 00:42:34,421
It would not matter.
There's nothing you can do
to get my brain...

777
00:42:34,464 --> 00:42:36,728
I can take one subject matter

778
00:42:36,771 --> 00:42:40,645
and I will be oblivious
to everything else happening
in the world.

779
00:42:40,688 --> 00:42:43,386
Around ADHD
there's tremendous ignorance.

780
00:42:43,430 --> 00:42:46,781
Most people are not aware
of the positives
that go with it.

781
00:42:46,825 --> 00:42:49,436
<i>We have a many more tools</i>
<i>in our toolbox.</i>

782
00:42:50,306 --> 00:42:52,831
[Ned] <i>What we need is to educate</i>
<i>more professionals.</i>

783
00:42:52,874 --> 00:42:58,184
<i>And particularly,</i>
<i>in the strength-based approach</i>
<i>instead of a deficit disorder.</i>

784
00:42:58,227 --> 00:43:00,839
You need to look and see
whether the person with ADHD

785
00:43:00,882 --> 00:43:03,972
has anything that
we could capitalize on,

786
00:43:04,016 --> 00:43:08,281
and then do what
Michael Phelps' mother did,
and get those resources

787
00:43:08,324 --> 00:43:12,546
<i>that turn that from an aptitude</i>
<i>into a talent</i>

788
00:43:12,590 --> 00:43:14,766
<i>that sets you apart</i>
<i>from other people.</i>

789
00:43:16,202 --> 00:43:18,639
<i>But you have to be careful</i>
<i>not to extrapolate</i>

790
00:43:18,683 --> 00:43:22,121
because by saying
that it's an advantage,

791
00:43:22,164 --> 00:43:25,341
it reduces the pressure
on people to help them.

792
00:43:29,998 --> 00:43:32,697
[Briana] So, tomorrow, um,

793
00:43:32,740 --> 00:43:37,615
Bear has a prescription
for a medication
called Concerta.

794
00:43:38,746 --> 00:43:40,313
- Bear.
- What?

795
00:43:40,356 --> 00:43:42,620
Come on.

796
00:43:42,663 --> 00:43:45,666
<i>This pediatrician recommended</i>
<i>maybe starting him</i>
<i>on half a pill</i>

797
00:43:45,710 --> 00:43:48,800
<i>um, just to see,</i>
<i>um, how he does.</i>

798
00:43:48,843 --> 00:43:53,326
<i>Um, since like, this will be </i>
<i>like his first time ever taking,</i>

799
00:43:53,369 --> 00:43:55,328
<i>you know,</i>
<i>a medicine of this type.</i>

800
00:43:55,371 --> 00:43:57,547
<i>So, um, I think tomorrow</i>

801
00:43:57,591 --> 00:44:02,248
I'll probably go ahead
and do half a pill
and see how that goes.

802
00:44:03,249 --> 00:44:07,209
<i>I am hesitant about it </i>
<i>because he's just a little baby.</i>

803
00:44:07,253 --> 00:44:09,864
[indistinct chatter]

804
00:44:10,822 --> 00:44:13,738
Because he's...
he's gone through so much

805
00:44:14,652 --> 00:44:17,872
that it just might be good
for him to have it.

806
00:44:17,916 --> 00:44:21,006
I want him to be able
to live his best life.

807
00:44:21,049 --> 00:44:23,617
[Bear screams]

808
00:44:27,142 --> 00:44:30,232
[Briana]
Oh! Oh, you're really good.

809
00:44:30,276 --> 00:44:35,716
<i>My main concern was</i>
<i>that the side effects</i>
<i>would be an issue.</i>

810
00:44:35,760 --> 00:44:38,980
<i>And I wouldn't know</i>
<i>because he's a kid</i>

811
00:44:39,024 --> 00:44:44,986
<i>and I'm... I'm not sure if he's</i>
<i>gonna tell me or if he will be</i>
<i>able to explain it.</i>

812
00:44:45,030 --> 00:44:47,249
You need a break? Okay.

813
00:44:48,511 --> 00:44:52,167
<i>And for myself,</i>
<i>I know when I started taking</i>
<i>medication,</i>

814
00:44:52,211 --> 00:44:56,998
I had really bad side effects
and I didn't like
how it made me feel.

815
00:44:57,042 --> 00:45:02,177
So, I have this medicine here,
it's Concerta.

816
00:45:09,968 --> 00:45:11,360
I hope this works.

817
00:45:14,189 --> 00:45:16,017
[Bear] Is that a medicine?

818
00:45:17,715 --> 00:45:20,630
[Briana] If you eat this,
I'll get you a toy,
whatever toy you want.

819
00:45:25,331 --> 00:45:27,289
Just swallow it down,
don't chew it.

820
00:45:28,900 --> 00:45:30,336
Just do.

821
00:45:30,379 --> 00:45:34,383
If you feel weird,
you tell me, right away.

822
00:45:35,994 --> 00:45:38,039
- Okay, mom.
- Pinky promise.

823
00:45:40,999 --> 00:45:44,176
Okay, poopy.
[blows kisses]

824
00:45:44,219 --> 00:45:45,873
Muah.

825
00:45:45,917 --> 00:45:49,659
[mellow music playing]

826
00:46:01,323 --> 00:46:05,153
It was the most
horrendous experience.

827
00:46:06,198 --> 00:46:09,767
<i>And he was doing like these </i>
<i>weird movements with his mouth.</i>

828
00:46:10,811 --> 00:46:12,813
Do you feel okay?

829
00:46:12,857 --> 00:46:13,945
Yes or no?

830
00:46:15,947 --> 00:46:17,818
You feel weird or anything?

831
00:46:21,039 --> 00:46:24,607
<i>Very quiet, not really talking.</i>

832
00:46:27,567 --> 00:46:33,616
He was focused on drawing
this one thing
for a really long time.

833
00:46:34,879 --> 00:46:38,796
<i>And every time I would try</i>
<i>to pull him away from it,</i>
<i>he couldn't.</i>

834
00:46:41,320 --> 00:46:45,411
<i>It was almost like</i>
<i>he was like in another world.</i>

835
00:46:52,940 --> 00:46:55,290
[man 10] Hey, Bear!

836
00:46:55,334 --> 00:47:00,382
So, now I'm thinking maybe
this medication is not...
is not right for him.

837
00:47:01,296 --> 00:47:04,212
<i>Everyone talks about</i>
<i>how quiet he is</i>

838
00:47:04,256 --> 00:47:07,476
<i>and, you know,</i>
<i>he's not really that engaging.</i>

839
00:47:07,520 --> 00:47:10,523
<i>And that's not like Bear at all.</i>

840
00:47:10,566 --> 00:47:14,048
I just called his, um, doctor

841
00:47:14,092 --> 00:47:20,446
to see if, um, I can get
an emergency appointment
this week, um, right away.

842
00:47:21,360 --> 00:47:24,537
<i>Side effects were just not...</i>
<i>it's not worth it.</i>

843
00:47:25,930 --> 00:47:30,151
Unfortunately,
the state of the science
is trial and error.

844
00:47:30,195 --> 00:47:34,503
We don't know in advance
which medication will work
for what person.

845
00:47:34,547 --> 00:47:38,812
<i>With my patients if they say</i>
<i>I'm not fun anymore,</i>
<i>I want to tinker with it</i>

846
00:47:38,856 --> 00:47:43,643
<i>uh, tweak it to get</i>
<i>target symptom relief</i>
<i>with no negative side effects.</i>

847
00:47:45,645 --> 00:47:47,908
[Dale]
<i>Of course, like all medicines,</i>

848
00:47:47,952 --> 00:47:50,606
<i>I mean, stimulant medications</i>
<i>come with side effects.</i>

849
00:47:51,607 --> 00:47:52,957
To be honest,
I feel a little jittery.

850
00:47:54,436 --> 00:47:56,438
Like, my heart feels
a little racy.

851
00:47:57,526 --> 00:47:59,398
[Francine]
<i>They have appetite suppression.</i>

852
00:47:59,441 --> 00:48:01,704
So, they don't eat as much.

853
00:48:03,315 --> 00:48:05,883
[clears throat]

854
00:48:05,926 --> 00:48:08,929
[Ned] <i>Insomnia, so they...</i>
<i>they stay up later </i>
<i>than they ordinarily would have.</i>

855
00:48:08,973 --> 00:48:12,063
I don't feel like myself
or it hurts my personality.

856
00:48:12,977 --> 00:48:17,024
[Ned] <i>But 80% of the time,</i>
<i>it's positive</i>
<i>without side effects.</i>

857
00:48:17,068 --> 00:48:20,158
<i>If you see a doctor,</i>
<i>who knows how to manage it.</i>

858
00:48:20,201 --> 00:48:25,772
Where we are rock solid,
affirmative on,
with no exception,

859
00:48:25,815 --> 00:48:29,036
is that by staying
on these medications,

860
00:48:29,080 --> 00:48:32,648
we are not predisposing you
to becoming a drug user.

861
00:48:34,041 --> 00:48:36,304
[man 11] <i>There is one fix</i>
<i>students are turning to</i>

862
00:48:36,348 --> 00:48:38,393
<i>at an alarming rate</i>
<i>to get ahead.</i>

863
00:48:38,437 --> 00:48:42,093
Personally, in my social circle,
it's literally everyone.

864
00:48:42,136 --> 00:48:44,617
[Dave] <i>We know they're being</i>
<i>abused by college students,</i>

865
00:48:44,660 --> 00:48:47,315
who feel that they're smart
pills or focus pills.

866
00:48:47,359 --> 00:48:50,797
[Francine] <i>For individuals,</i>
<i>who do not have ADHD,</i>
<i>they'll feel that high.</i>

867
00:48:50,840 --> 00:48:53,321
<i>And so, we find</i>
<i>that there's some abuse,</i>

868
00:48:53,365 --> 00:48:57,151
<i>especially among college age</i>
<i>students who are not ADHD.</i>

869
00:48:59,632 --> 00:49:03,636
<i>But for the ADHD child,</i>
<i>it sort of calms them.</i>

870
00:49:07,292 --> 00:49:11,296
There is more research
on the medicines we use
for treating ADHD

871
00:49:11,339 --> 00:49:15,343
than there is on any
other medicine you
or anybody else will ever take.

872
00:49:16,301 --> 00:49:20,261
<i>And the reason that</i>
<i>there're so many studies on it</i>
<i>is we use them with kids.</i>

873
00:49:21,262 --> 00:49:25,136
But it gets turned
into a passionate debate

874
00:49:25,179 --> 00:49:27,051
and people attacking
other people and...

875
00:49:27,094 --> 00:49:29,053
Maybe there are too many kids
on Ritalin,

876
00:49:29,096 --> 00:49:31,142
- maybe electric shock--
- How many kids on Ritalin,
Matt?

877
00:49:31,185 --> 00:49:33,927
I'm just saying,
but... but aren't there examples
where it works?

878
00:49:33,971 --> 00:49:36,190
Matt, Matt, Matt,
you don't even...

879
00:49:36,234 --> 00:49:38,410
You're glim, you don't even know
what Ritalin is.

880
00:49:38,453 --> 00:49:41,848
You know you're a bad person
because you take medication

881
00:49:41,891 --> 00:49:45,112
or you're a bad doctor
because you prescribe
medication.

882
00:49:45,156 --> 00:49:46,984
There has been a rush
to prescribe

883
00:49:47,027 --> 00:49:49,812
for conditions which may
or may not be ADHD.

884
00:49:49,856 --> 00:49:52,119
It seems to be sloppy medicine.

885
00:49:53,033 --> 00:49:57,385
That's just... It's wrong
and it's hurtful and it's born
out of ignorance.

886
00:49:57,429 --> 00:50:00,998
[mellow music playing]

887
00:50:04,175 --> 00:50:10,877
[Russell] <i>These drugs are</i>
<i>nowhere near as harmful as the </i>
<i>media have made them out to be.</i>

888
00:50:10,920 --> 00:50:13,227
So, you've been scared
unnecessarily

889
00:50:13,271 --> 00:50:18,711
by overly sensationalized
stories about the hazards
of these medications.

890
00:50:20,974 --> 00:50:22,584
[Amy] <i>I think it's a very</i>
<i>personal choice.</i>

891
00:50:22,628 --> 00:50:24,369
<i>But it's important</i>
<i>to know the evidence.</i>

892
00:50:24,412 --> 00:50:28,503
And the evidence says medication
can be incredibly helpful.

893
00:50:28,547 --> 00:50:30,549
It can help with
educational outcomes.

894
00:50:30,592 --> 00:50:33,160
It can help with avoiding
substance use problems.

895
00:50:33,204 --> 00:50:35,989
It can help with
social function.

896
00:50:37,947 --> 00:50:40,602
- [Emily] Did you take your
Adderall?
- Yeah, I took my Adderall.

897
00:50:44,302 --> 00:50:48,262
[Troy] <i>I don't want to medicate</i>
<i>a child because</i>
<i>it's easier for me,</i>

898
00:50:48,306 --> 00:50:52,353
or easier for the school
or easier for the teacher.

899
00:50:52,397 --> 00:50:56,662
I think in sixth grade
he... he was starting to notice.

900
00:50:57,706 --> 00:51:02,276
<i>I'm trying to have friends</i>
<i>and I'm trying to not get up</i>
<i>in people's space</i>

901
00:51:02,320 --> 00:51:06,193
<i>and, um,</i>
<i>I'm not able to not do that.</i>

902
00:51:10,937 --> 00:51:15,594
[Emily] <i>He wanted the medicine</i>
<i>and he was the one that said,</i>
<i>"I think, if I have it, my..."</i>

903
00:51:15,637 --> 00:51:18,249
He said, "I think my friends
and my teachers
will like me better."

904
00:51:26,387 --> 00:51:31,479
[Dave]
<i>Dopamine is a brain chemical </i>
<i>and dopamine has two functions.</i>

905
00:51:31,523 --> 00:51:34,003
<i>It has the function</i>
<i>of concentration,</i>

906
00:51:34,047 --> 00:51:37,790
<i>but also, </i>
<i>it has the function of euphoria.</i>

907
00:51:38,747 --> 00:51:41,924
[Ned] <i>We don't have the dopamine</i>
<i>that other people have.</i>

908
00:51:41,968 --> 00:51:45,580
<i>We don't have the pleasure</i>
<i>that other people have</i>
<i>in ordinary life.</i>

909
00:51:45,624 --> 00:51:47,713
But it's this...
this basic feeling

910
00:51:47,756 --> 00:51:51,847
of I need to change
how I feel inside

911
00:51:51,891 --> 00:51:56,113
that drives it,
and you can't get rid of that.
That's the way we're wired.

912
00:51:57,114 --> 00:51:59,203
[Amy] <i>Dopamine governs</i>
<i>the reward system.</i>

913
00:51:59,246 --> 00:52:01,553
<i>And if dopamine</i>
<i>isn't working right,</i>

914
00:52:01,596 --> 00:52:04,469
<i>that'll make it hard</i>
<i>for the reward system</i>
<i>to work right.</i>

915
00:52:04,512 --> 00:52:07,167
<i>What the brain imaging research</i>
<i>has shown</i>

916
00:52:07,211 --> 00:52:10,779
<i>is that children's brains</i>
<i>respond differently to reward</i>
<i>when they have ADHD.</i>

917
00:52:12,912 --> 00:52:17,482
[Ned] <i>Medication allows there</i>
<i>to be more circulating</i>
<i>free dopamine.</i>

918
00:52:17,525 --> 00:52:21,747
[Dave] <i>By either blocking the </i>
<i>pumps that suck up the dopamine</i>

919
00:52:21,790 --> 00:52:26,230
<i>in the ADHD brain</i>
<i>or by increasing production.</i>

920
00:52:29,798 --> 00:52:33,324
[Amy] <i>And what they saw was that</i>
<i>children who had been</i>
<i>taking medication</i>

921
00:52:33,367 --> 00:52:35,543
<i>for their ADHD symptoms,</i>

922
00:52:35,587 --> 00:52:37,589
<i>had better reward processing</i>

923
00:52:37,632 --> 00:52:40,983
<i>than the children who had ADHD </i>
<i>and were not taking medication.</i>

924
00:52:41,027 --> 00:52:43,072
<i>And this was true,</i>

925
00:52:43,116 --> 00:52:45,423
even though, they were not
on their medication
at the time of the brain scan.

926
00:52:47,294 --> 00:52:50,341
[Dave] <i>We now have 35 studies</i>

927
00:52:50,384 --> 00:52:52,473
<i>showing that</i>
<i>stimulant medications</i>

928
00:52:52,517 --> 00:52:57,478
<i>used over several years of time </i>
<i>help the brain to become normal.</i>

929
00:52:57,522 --> 00:53:00,829
<i>Help these areas of the brain</i>
<i>that are less developed,</i>

930
00:53:00,873 --> 00:53:05,138
<i>less wired, less functional,</i>
<i>to literally grow.</i>

931
00:53:07,271 --> 00:53:12,189
Now, in no way am I saying
medication is the end all
and be all, no way.

932
00:53:13,842 --> 00:53:17,846
<i>Therapy, structure, coaching,</i>
<i>all of that very important.</i>

933
00:53:20,893 --> 00:53:24,375
<i>The therapy that used to be</i>
<i>so effective,</i>

934
00:53:24,418 --> 00:53:27,813
<i>has fallen by the wayside </i>
<i>with respect to this diagnosis.</i>

935
00:53:27,856 --> 00:53:31,773
<i>So, family therapy works,</i>
<i>individual therapy works.</i>

936
00:53:31,817 --> 00:53:36,996
<i>And, unfortunately,</i>
<i>those are being prescribed</i>
<i>less and less.</i>

937
00:53:37,039 --> 00:53:39,216
- You are getting your allowance.
- Mm-hmm.

938
00:53:39,259 --> 00:53:40,826
So, you buying stuff
for your game?

939
00:53:40,869 --> 00:53:43,394
I'm also saving up.
I'm saving up for a PC...

940
00:53:43,437 --> 00:53:45,657
- Oh, yeah.
- ...and monitor.
- Yeah, you've told me that.

941
00:53:45,700 --> 00:53:49,791
So, when I say we're going to do
everything without medication,

942
00:53:49,835 --> 00:53:51,924
this is what we're going to...
this is what I'm talking about.

943
00:53:51,967 --> 00:53:56,233
I want you to take a couple.
So, because... Smell that.

944
00:53:56,276 --> 00:53:57,973
- Just bubble gum.
- Mm.

945
00:53:58,017 --> 00:53:59,758
And so, when you write
with that, and when you erase,

946
00:53:59,801 --> 00:54:02,064
it smells like bubble gum,
and it stimulates your dopamine.

947
00:54:02,108 --> 00:54:03,631
Oh, I love the scent
of bubblegum.

948
00:54:03,675 --> 00:54:05,198
So, you're gonna take
this one and practice.

949
00:54:05,242 --> 00:54:07,418
- Okay.
- And I want you to write your...

950
00:54:07,461 --> 00:54:10,899
[Savera]
<i>Zara is currently not taking</i>
<i>any medication for ADHD.</i>

951
00:54:10,943 --> 00:54:16,296
I believe that we should exhaust
all other venues and options
and strategies

952
00:54:16,340 --> 00:54:21,214
that are out there before we can
actually resort to medication.

953
00:54:21,258 --> 00:54:23,085
That would be our last resort.

954
00:54:25,262 --> 00:54:30,005
[Gail] <i>I personally feel</i>
<i>that it is always better</i>

955
00:54:30,049 --> 00:54:35,837
<i>to be doing behavioral work</i>
<i>with a child teaching,</i>
<i>workarounds and coping tools,</i>

956
00:54:35,881 --> 00:54:38,840
<i>at the same time</i>
<i>that you are using medication</i>

957
00:54:38,884 --> 00:54:42,931
because those things
will last forever.

958
00:54:42,975 --> 00:54:44,846
Those are things
that a child can incorporate

959
00:54:44,890 --> 00:54:48,241
and continue to use long after
they've stopped medication.

960
00:54:49,982 --> 00:54:51,375
[Bear yells]

961
00:54:55,857 --> 00:54:57,990
Heh, you're so silly.

962
00:54:58,033 --> 00:55:00,601
<i>And when I took Bear</i>
<i>off the Concerta,</i>

963
00:55:00,645 --> 00:55:04,213
<i>he didn't have any medication</i>
<i>for maybe about a week or two.</i>

964
00:55:04,257 --> 00:55:09,306
And, um,
his teacher was very shocked

965
00:55:09,349 --> 00:55:12,352
at how different he was
off the medication.

966
00:55:12,396 --> 00:55:14,876
Is it opening? Here we go.

967
00:55:14,920 --> 00:55:19,620
<i>And she said it was a little bit</i>
<i>more difficult</i>
<i>to, uh, follow instructions</i>

968
00:55:19,664 --> 00:55:22,623
and I guess participate
in the class.

969
00:55:22,667 --> 00:55:23,798
Okay.

970
00:55:25,191 --> 00:55:30,762
I contacted the children's
psychiatrist department

971
00:55:30,805 --> 00:55:35,201
to see if I could possibly, uh,
meet with a child psych

972
00:55:35,244 --> 00:55:38,378
who can really help
with the medication management,

973
00:55:38,422 --> 00:55:42,121
um, figuring out
the right medicine for him,

974
00:55:42,164 --> 00:55:47,039
'cause my doctor that Bear
has been seeing
does not specialize in children.

975
00:55:47,082 --> 00:55:51,086
So, I think that may have also
been a challenge
but they're full.

976
00:55:52,566 --> 00:55:55,569
[Dave] <i>We have good treatments</i>
<i>to... to help people</i>
<i>all over the world.</i>

977
00:55:55,613 --> 00:55:58,267
And far too few people get them.

978
00:55:58,311 --> 00:56:00,748
Far too few people
get the information they need.

979
00:56:00,792 --> 00:56:03,316
Far too few people
have access to treatment.

980
00:56:03,360 --> 00:56:05,971
Far too few people have access
to affordable treatment,

981
00:56:06,014 --> 00:56:09,627
or can afford it, uh, for long
enough for it to be effective.

982
00:56:14,371 --> 00:56:20,986
Good afternoon.
- Please get out your Pro/
- Con
Self-Driving Car article.

983
00:56:21,029 --> 00:56:23,554
[Rece] <i>I would get to sit</i>
<i>on the hallway a lot.</i>

984
00:56:23,597 --> 00:56:25,120
[woman 2] Welcome, Rece!

985
00:56:25,164 --> 00:56:27,079
[Rece] <i>Because I would do</i>
<i>certain things</i>

986
00:56:27,122 --> 00:56:29,037
<i>that the teacher</i>
<i>would think would be bad.</i>

987
00:56:29,081 --> 00:56:30,865
All right, ladies and gentlemen,

988
00:56:30,909 --> 00:56:35,870
you need your blue article
from last night and yesterday.

989
00:56:35,914 --> 00:56:37,350
[Rece]
<i>I would blur it out a lot.</i>

990
00:56:37,394 --> 00:56:39,787
<i>A lot of times</i>
<i>it was from talking.</i>

991
00:56:39,831 --> 00:56:45,489
My butt was like imprinted
on the seat in the principal's
office as well. So...

992
00:56:45,532 --> 00:56:48,622
[woman 2] Who says, no?
Rece, why did you say no?

993
00:56:48,666 --> 00:56:50,450
Um, I said
because it's computer.

994
00:56:50,494 --> 00:56:52,496
Somebody might be able
to hack into it

995
00:56:52,539 --> 00:56:54,802
and drive you somewhere else
or like maybe drive you
off a cliff.

996
00:56:54,846 --> 00:56:58,197
[woman 2] Drive you off a cliff?
You know I don't know, maybe.
Okay, so...

997
00:56:58,240 --> 00:57:01,374
Elementary school
was definitely a challenge.

998
00:57:03,507 --> 00:57:07,554
<i>He would be outside</i>
<i>like the teacher forgot him</i>
<i>a few times outside.</i>

999
00:57:07,598 --> 00:57:09,774
[Bart] <i>So, he would be missing</i>
<i>instruction.</i>

1000
00:57:09,817 --> 00:57:12,037
[Jean] <i>Right, missing</i>
<i>instructions and then</i>
<i>he'd be behind.</i>

1001
00:57:12,080 --> 00:57:14,126
[Bart] <i>When evidently</i>
<i>there was comments being made</i>

1002
00:57:14,169 --> 00:57:16,302
<i>about, you know,</i>
<i>Rece is in the hall again.</i>

1003
00:57:17,695 --> 00:57:21,307
[Jean] <i>The kids picked up on it, </i>
<i>they didn't want to be near him.</i>

1004
00:57:21,350 --> 00:57:22,961
<i>So, then they're bullying him.</i>

1005
00:57:23,004 --> 00:57:24,702
<i>And they would try</i>
<i>to get him in trouble.</i>

1006
00:57:25,703 --> 00:57:28,532
<i>They like, here, let's see Rece</i>
<i>[inaudible] the handle.</i>

1007
00:57:30,925 --> 00:57:33,275
I was called all kinds of things

1008
00:57:33,319 --> 00:57:36,453
from idiot to class clown
to moron.

1009
00:57:37,497 --> 00:57:39,238
<i>And you get used to that.</i>

1010
00:57:39,281 --> 00:57:41,849
<i>But a lot of times,</i>

1011
00:57:41,893 --> 00:57:46,375
<i>you will find, uh, most teachers</i>
<i>just don't have the patience</i>
<i>to deal with you.</i>

1012
00:57:46,419 --> 00:57:50,118
And so, I spent a lot of time
in the hallway,

1013
00:57:50,162 --> 00:57:52,817
uh, just sitting,
listening to everybody learn,

1014
00:57:52,860 --> 00:57:56,473
um, which makes you start
to feel like you've, uh...

1015
00:57:57,865 --> 00:57:58,910
Well, you're not normal.

1016
00:58:00,825 --> 00:58:03,088
[Gail] <i>For kids with ADHD,</i>

1017
00:58:03,131 --> 00:58:08,136
<i>the impact</i>
<i>of the distractibility</i>
<i>and impulsivity is emotional.</i>

1018
00:58:08,180 --> 00:58:11,313
<i>It is the feeling that</i>
<i>they are different.</i>

1019
00:58:11,357 --> 00:58:14,055
<i>Like they're bad kids</i>
<i>with bad minds.</i>

1020
00:58:14,099 --> 00:58:18,973
And that impact
on their self-esteem
has a huge emotional toll.

1021
00:58:22,542 --> 00:58:25,066
It is silent.

1022
00:58:25,110 --> 00:58:31,290
There's no sign that says,
"I have ADHD and right now
I can't concentrate. Help me!"

1023
00:58:31,333 --> 00:58:34,293
Like, I've one teacher
who I ain't gotta say any names.

1024
00:58:36,382 --> 00:58:41,518
I got in trouble for tapping
a pencil or stuff like that.

1025
00:58:43,302 --> 00:58:45,217
How many principal calls
did we get last year?

1026
00:58:46,348 --> 00:58:48,786
<i>Oh, my God, sorry.</i>

1027
00:58:48,829 --> 00:58:51,615
<i>I... I'm tired</i>
<i>of apologizing for him.</i>

1028
00:58:53,225 --> 00:58:57,577
Can I get a phone call
that says, "Hey, he had a
great day, today."

1029
00:58:57,621 --> 00:58:58,926
- We don't get those.
- We got one.

1030
00:58:58,970 --> 00:59:00,537
We did. We got a postcard.

1031
00:59:03,191 --> 00:59:05,716
<i>I think one of the hardest</i>
<i>things with ADHD</i>

1032
00:59:05,759 --> 00:59:11,199
<i>is how every time they hear</i>
<i>"no" or "stop",</i>

1033
00:59:11,243 --> 00:59:14,594
<i>or you got to, you know,</i>
<i>whatever the issue is,</i>

1034
00:59:14,638 --> 00:59:18,816
<i>it holds away</i>
<i>at their self-esteem.</i>

1035
00:59:18,859 --> 00:59:21,949
I mean, Rece says it,
he's so used to being in trouble

1036
00:59:21,993 --> 00:59:23,647
it doesn't really bother him
anymore.

1037
00:59:23,690 --> 00:59:26,432
You shouldn't be used to that.

1038
00:59:27,651 --> 00:59:28,695
Right?

1039
00:59:31,916 --> 00:59:36,268
[Rece] <i>I'm not trying to be </i>
<i>rude. I'm not trying to be mean.</i>

1040
00:59:36,311 --> 00:59:39,576
<i>I'm just trying to have fun,</i>
<i>try to make you laugh.</i>

1041
00:59:41,795 --> 00:59:45,146
And... Yeah, it's all I can say.

1042
00:59:46,583 --> 00:59:50,630
One of the things I did in...
in school was, I called, uh,

1043
00:59:50,674 --> 00:59:52,719
through the Yellow Pages,
and I called
a construction company.

1044
00:59:54,286 --> 00:59:56,505
<i>And I said... And I used my name</i>
<i>and everything</i>

1045
00:59:56,549 --> 00:59:58,943
<i>because I don't think</i>
<i>of the ramifications.</i>

1046
00:59:58,986 --> 01:00:01,815
<i>I'd like you to come over </i>
<i>and measure for an addition onto</i>
<i>the library,</i>

1047
01:00:01,859 --> 01:00:03,991
<i>and I'm at 3 o'clock</i>
<i>and I made this appointment.</i>

1048
01:00:04,035 --> 01:00:06,167
<i>I thought that was really funny.</i>
<i>I didn't have a friend</i>
<i>in the world.</i>

1049
01:00:06,211 --> 01:00:08,909
<i>I mean, it was fun because</i>
<i>when I was in math class,</i>

1050
01:00:08,953 --> 01:00:12,260
<i>I see this guy</i>
<i>out on the field measuring.</i>

1051
01:00:12,304 --> 01:00:14,262
<i>And then, I see the...</i>
<i>the vice principal go out</i>

1052
01:00:14,306 --> 01:00:16,438
<i>and ask him what he's doing.</i>

1053
01:00:16,482 --> 01:00:18,049
<i>Then I hear,</i>
<i>"Well, Howard Mandel,</i>
<i>please come to the office."</i>

1054
01:00:20,181 --> 01:00:22,444
<i>And I go to the office,</i>
<i>and he very sternly</i>
<i>looks down at me.</i>

1055
01:00:22,488 --> 01:00:25,883
<i>And he goes, "Did you hire </i>
<i>a contractor to put an addition</i>
<i>onto the library?"</i>

1056
01:00:25,926 --> 01:00:28,581
And I just said, "Yes."

1057
01:00:28,625 --> 01:00:32,150
And he said, "Well, that...
You can't do that."

1058
01:00:32,193 --> 01:00:36,937
And I said,
"Wait, I'm getting...
I'm gonna get three bids."

1059
01:00:36,981 --> 01:00:38,678
<i>He said, "Just sit down!</i>
<i>Just sit down!"</i>

1060
01:00:38,722 --> 01:00:41,681
<i>I sat down.</i>
<i>They called my parents.</i>

1061
01:00:41,725 --> 01:00:43,465
I don't know what he expected
my parents to do.

1062
01:00:43,509 --> 01:00:46,555
We told them never
to hire construction firms.

1063
01:00:46,599 --> 01:00:48,906
And they asked me to leave
the school eventually,

1064
01:00:48,949 --> 01:00:52,910
and I was thrown out of...
I don't have a GED.
And that really was bothersome.

1065
01:00:52,953 --> 01:00:56,478
But my parents always laughed
where it was funny.

1066
01:00:56,522 --> 01:00:58,437
Always hugged me
when I needed it.

1067
01:00:58,480 --> 01:01:00,482
And, you know, that was enough.

1068
01:01:00,526 --> 01:01:04,661
That was really enough
to get me to where I am today.

1069
01:01:04,704 --> 01:01:06,793
I just felt
they were my safety net.

1070
01:01:08,577 --> 01:01:09,709
- [kids] Two.
- [woman 3] Three.

1071
01:01:09,753 --> 01:01:10,841
- [kids] Four.
- [woman 3] Five.

1072
01:01:10,884 --> 01:01:12,146
- [kids] Six.
- [woman 3] Seven.

1073
01:01:12,190 --> 01:01:14,235
- [kids] Eight.
- [woman 3] Nine.
- [kids] Ten.

1074
01:01:14,279 --> 01:01:15,280
- [woman 3] One.
- [kids] Two.

1075
01:01:15,323 --> 01:01:16,281
- [woman 3] Three.
- [kids] Four.

1076
01:01:16,324 --> 01:01:17,499
- [woman 3] Five.
- [kids] Six.

1077
01:01:17,543 --> 01:01:18,936
- [woman 3] Seven.
- [kids] Eight.

1078
01:01:18,979 --> 01:01:21,155
- [woman 3] Nine.
- [kids] Ten.
- [woman 3] Awesome.

1079
01:01:21,199 --> 01:01:23,723
[Jean] <i>Rece really loves</i>
<i>to make people happy</i>
<i>and to make them laugh.</i>

1080
01:01:23,767 --> 01:01:25,290
- [Elena] Shot.
- [Rece] Elena!

1081
01:01:25,333 --> 01:01:27,727
- [Rece] Stop making
everything...
- [Elena] Shot! Go.

1082
01:01:27,771 --> 01:01:29,076
But he's so competitive.

1083
01:01:29,120 --> 01:01:31,383
- You know what?
- No, we have...
we have two.

1084
01:01:32,950 --> 01:01:34,821
I made two baskets.

1085
01:01:34,865 --> 01:01:37,041
- Yes.
- So, it's two-two.
Two-two.

1086
01:01:37,084 --> 01:01:39,478
- Yes, I did.
Stop cheating.
- [woman 3] Two-two.

1087
01:01:39,521 --> 01:01:41,741
[Troy] <i>You know he has</i>
<i>a very hard time...</i>

1088
01:01:41,785 --> 01:01:44,352
- [Rece] Go get it!
- [Troy] <i>...distinguishing</i>
<i>between a place</i>

1089
01:01:44,396 --> 01:01:46,833
<i>where he should be competitive</i>
<i>and a place where he should</i>
<i>just be having fun.</i>

1090
01:01:46,877 --> 01:01:48,617
- [woman 3] Next point wins.
- [Rece] Yeah.

1091
01:01:51,664 --> 01:01:54,101
- No, you guys have
four right now.
- [woman 3] Next point wins.

1092
01:01:55,494 --> 01:01:57,626
No!

1093
01:01:57,670 --> 01:02:01,761
As a parent, the thing
that bothers me the most
are the friend issues.

1094
01:02:01,805 --> 01:02:04,285
Rylie, you're out.
Mekhela got you out.

1095
01:02:04,329 --> 01:02:07,462
[Francine] <i>Socially</i>
<i>in middle school</i>
<i>is a particular challenge.</i>

1096
01:02:07,506 --> 01:02:10,901
And one of the challenges
with ADHD children

1097
01:02:10,944 --> 01:02:15,253
is they don't really get
the nuances of relationships

1098
01:02:15,296 --> 01:02:17,646
and so they tend to not have
a lot of friends.

1099
01:02:17,690 --> 01:02:19,083
[whistle blows]

1100
01:02:19,126 --> 01:02:21,128
- [woman 3] Winners rotate!
- No! You...

1101
01:02:21,172 --> 01:02:22,434
[woman 3]
Do you need a partner?

1102
01:02:22,477 --> 01:02:23,827
Those with points just go onto
the next fence.

1103
01:02:23,870 --> 01:02:25,350
- We won but whatever.
- [woman 3] Ken, are you fine?

1104
01:02:25,393 --> 01:02:26,568
Come on, hon!

1105
01:02:26,612 --> 01:02:28,570
You guys cheated three times.

1106
01:02:28,614 --> 01:02:30,790
<i>It has always been</i>
<i>a problem for me, my friends,</i>

1107
01:02:30,834 --> 01:02:33,488
<i>because I'll always come out</i>
<i>with a bad first impression.</i>

1108
01:02:33,532 --> 01:02:37,405
She'd be like,
"Wow, he's really annoying
or something like that."

1109
01:02:37,449 --> 01:02:41,714
To see Rece struggle
getting along, you know,
it kind of breaks my heart

1110
01:02:41,758 --> 01:02:44,935
because I want him to...
I want him to have
good relationships.

1111
01:02:44,978 --> 01:02:47,764
I want him to have meaningful
friendships.

1112
01:02:47,807 --> 01:02:52,246
[growling]

1113
01:02:52,290 --> 01:02:55,597
[Ned] <i>They can be obnoxious</i>
<i>without meaning to be.</i>
<i>So, the friend walks away.</i>

1114
01:02:55,641 --> 01:02:57,382
They can think
they're being funny.

1115
01:02:57,425 --> 01:02:59,210
They can think
they're being enthusiastic.

1116
01:02:59,253 --> 01:03:00,733
When, in fact,
they're dominating,

1117
01:03:00,777 --> 01:03:03,649
they're butting in,
they're controlling.

1118
01:03:03,692 --> 01:03:06,521
You better not miss, Elena.
Oh, go get it. Go get it.

1119
01:03:06,565 --> 01:03:09,611
[Ned] <i>They're having it their</i>
<i>way, they're not cooperating</i>
<i>they're not empathizing,</i>

1120
01:03:09,655 --> 01:03:12,136
simply because
they're oblivious to it.

1121
01:03:12,179 --> 01:03:15,052
[indistinct chatter]

1122
01:03:16,967 --> 01:03:20,274
[Dale] <i>But the number one thing</i>
<i>that kids with ADHD </i>
<i>are gonna have trouble with is,</i>

1123
01:03:20,318 --> 01:03:22,886
schoolwork, plain and simple.

1124
01:03:22,929 --> 01:03:26,715
Guys, you're all gonna get
your journal, get your pencil,
get your calculator. Let's go.

1125
01:03:26,759 --> 01:03:28,935
Hi! Hello!

1126
01:03:28,979 --> 01:03:31,895
[Ned] <i>In most schools,</i>
<i>it's pretty lockstep</i>
<i>prescribed curriculum.</i>

1127
01:03:31,938 --> 01:03:36,595
<i>Memorize, repeat, hand back</i>
<i>to me what I told you to.</i>

1128
01:03:36,638 --> 01:03:38,989
It's... it's deadening
for people with ADD.

1129
01:03:40,381 --> 01:03:47,345
[Russell] <i>We've moved to a </i>
<i>sort of industrial assembly line</i>
<i>approach to education.</i>

1130
01:03:47,388 --> 01:03:51,610
And we fail to respect
the individuality
of our children

1131
01:03:51,653 --> 01:03:54,221
and where they are in this
ready... in this to learn.

1132
01:03:54,265 --> 01:03:56,354
And how much they know
or don't know,

1133
01:03:56,397 --> 01:04:00,140
and how much assistance
they might need
in acquiring that information.

1134
01:04:01,054 --> 01:04:04,405
[Yamalis] <i>The ADHD brain is</i>
<i>known to be a more creative,</i>

1135
01:04:04,449 --> 01:04:08,888
<i>more out of the box,</i>
<i>problem-solving, imaginative,</i>
<i>curious brain,</i>

1136
01:04:08,932 --> 01:04:11,978
which doesn't always coincide
with a traditional
school setting.

1137
01:04:12,936 --> 01:04:14,546
You know, the teachers
kept on saying that,

1138
01:04:14,589 --> 01:04:17,375
"You know, it's hard
to handle him in the classroom.

1139
01:04:17,418 --> 01:04:19,246
"Always bouncing off the wall."

1140
01:04:21,727 --> 01:04:27,385
<i>It was my teacher, Mr. Ray,</i>
<i>really encouraged me</i>
<i>to accept my hyperactivity,</i>

1141
01:04:27,428 --> 01:04:33,260
accept my unique way
of looking at the world,
and creative problem solving.

1142
01:04:33,304 --> 01:04:38,439
I was always better
in school
when it was an activity, P.E.,

1143
01:04:38,483 --> 01:04:42,530
<i>demonstrations,</i>
<i>I love that, geometry.</i>

1144
01:04:43,531 --> 01:04:45,403
<i>All zeros.</i>

1145
01:04:45,446 --> 01:04:47,666
I didn't understand.

1146
01:04:47,709 --> 01:04:51,975
Why doesn't this picture
become clear to me?
Like, it does to other kids.

1147
01:04:52,018 --> 01:04:56,327
I remember
like it was yesterday.
Having the right intention,

1148
01:04:56,370 --> 01:05:03,160
wanting to do well
and just knowing it was
absolutely impossible.

1149
01:05:03,203 --> 01:05:06,293
I would literally
just miss entire days.

1150
01:05:06,337 --> 01:05:08,252
I would sleep in the back
of my car in the morning

1151
01:05:08,295 --> 01:05:12,734
and miss the first couple of...
of hours of school.

1152
01:05:12,778 --> 01:05:15,476
Eh, you know if I didn't like
the class, I just wouldn't go.

1153
01:05:15,520 --> 01:05:18,740
[indistinct chatter]

1154
01:05:20,003 --> 01:05:22,179
[Dave] <i>Kids with ADHD are much</i>
<i>more likely to miss classes.</i>

1155
01:05:22,222 --> 01:05:23,920
<i>They're much more likely</i>
<i>to be truant.</i>

1156
01:05:23,963 --> 01:05:25,791
They're much more likely
to drop out of school.

1157
01:05:25,834 --> 01:05:27,445
They're much more likely
to fail academically.

1158
01:05:29,969 --> 01:05:32,885
[Yamalis] <i>Unfortunately, those</i>
<i>children tend to be segwayed</i>
<i>into other pathways,</i>

1159
01:05:32,929 --> 01:05:34,365
<i>special education,</i>

1160
01:05:34,408 --> 01:05:36,758
before there's been
any real treatment.

1161
01:05:36,802 --> 01:05:40,414
Um, they might also end up,
unfortunately,
in the Juvenile Justice System.

1162
01:05:41,546 --> 01:05:46,203
This week I got suspended
from school
for some stuff that I did.

1163
01:05:46,246 --> 01:05:48,988
I was just kind of
messing around in class, um...

1164
01:05:49,032 --> 01:05:53,514
I got a call
from a police officer
Friday afternoon, 3:30.

1165
01:05:55,299 --> 01:05:59,607
[Emily] <i>What happened was that</i>
<i>he was walking down the hall</i>
<i>playing with a friend.</i>

1166
01:05:59,651 --> 01:06:02,393
<i>They were kind of pushing</i>
<i>each other, horse play.</i>

1167
01:06:02,436 --> 01:06:06,223
<i>And that kid like pushes</i>
<i>Hogan against the wall.</i>

1168
01:06:06,266 --> 01:06:10,618
<i>And, um, Hogan comes back, </i>
<i>and pushes him because it hurt.</i>

1169
01:06:10,662 --> 01:06:13,012
<i>And then that kid</i>
<i>just popped him in the face.</i>

1170
01:06:13,056 --> 01:06:15,188
<i>And Hogan is about</i>
<i>to start crying.</i>

1171
01:06:15,232 --> 01:06:19,540
<i>He's in the middle</i>
<i>of the hallway.</i>
<i>And he's embarrassed.</i>

1172
01:06:19,584 --> 01:06:22,021
<i>Like, his thought is, I'm gonna </i>
<i>go to the bathroom and cool off,</i>

1173
01:06:22,065 --> 01:06:24,197
<i>and then I'm going to go</i>
<i>to class.</i>

1174
01:06:24,241 --> 01:06:26,939
<i>But the teacher says,</i>
<i>"No, you can't go."</i>

1175
01:06:26,983 --> 01:06:32,640
<i>He keeps walking</i>
<i>in with his head down.</i>
<i>And then she blocks the door.</i>

1176
01:06:32,684 --> 01:06:35,861
Yeah, kind of holds that
with her hand
and he just keeps going.

1177
01:06:35,904 --> 01:06:38,342
- Kept walking through.
- Yeah. Right.

1178
01:06:38,385 --> 01:06:41,998
- Um, and she pressed charges
on him.
- Mm-hmm.

1179
01:06:47,612 --> 01:06:54,532
He certainly didn't want
anyone to get hurt,
wasn't trying to push an adult.

1180
01:06:54,575 --> 01:06:58,753
<i>I think for him,</i>
<i>it was more just like,</i>
<i>"How did this happen?</i>

1181
01:06:59,841 --> 01:07:01,756
<i>"I got punched in the face.</i>

1182
01:07:01,800 --> 01:07:04,672
"The next thing I know,
I'm in Juvenile Detention."

1183
01:07:06,805 --> 01:07:11,331
<i>A person at</i>
<i>the Juvenile Detention Center</i>
<i>comes out and says,</i>

1184
01:07:11,375 --> 01:07:12,941
<i>he'll be here all weekend.</i>

1185
01:07:15,031 --> 01:07:17,598
I'm thinking like a kid
who's only spent the night
at his grandparents' house,

1186
01:07:17,642 --> 01:07:21,950
our house, a hotel or two
and now he's here.

1187
01:07:21,994 --> 01:07:25,171
Just unbelievable.

1188
01:07:28,435 --> 01:07:31,308
[Troy] <i>And you're going,</i>
<i>"Gosh, is this...</i>
<i>is this the first time</i>

1189
01:07:31,351 --> 01:07:33,614
<i>"or is this the last time?"</i>

1190
01:07:33,658 --> 01:07:36,008
<i>That's what's worrisome</i>
<i>because once you get</i>
<i>into that system,</i>

1191
01:07:36,052 --> 01:07:39,577
<i>you never get the benefit</i>
<i>of the doubt</i>
<i>from that point forward.</i>

1192
01:07:40,882 --> 01:07:42,362
<i>Whether he did it or not...</i>

1193
01:07:43,320 --> 01:07:46,410
<i>he still gets a placement</i>
<i>outside of school.</i>

1194
01:07:46,453 --> 01:07:48,412
<i>So, he goes</i>
<i>to the alternative school,</i>

1195
01:07:48,455 --> 01:07:51,023
because he's got a
"pending charge".

1196
01:07:52,416 --> 01:07:55,201
So, now we're taking him
out of this school,

1197
01:07:55,245 --> 01:07:58,378
to this alternative school,
which is just...

1198
01:07:58,422 --> 01:08:01,642
- Oh, it's like a mini prison.
- It's a mini... It is a prison.
Like it's a mini prison.

1199
01:08:03,949 --> 01:08:05,603
<i>So, he's going there</i>
<i>every day.</i>

1200
01:08:07,561 --> 01:08:09,215
- [Emily] <i>And I think in our</i>
<i>perspective...</i>
- [Troy] <i>Mm-hmm.</i>

1201
01:08:09,259 --> 01:08:11,957
- ...I always felt like
they're just trying to punish...
- Mm-hmm.

1202
01:08:12,000 --> 01:08:13,698
- ...punish the ADHD child.
- Yeah, punish it out of it.

1203
01:08:13,741 --> 01:08:14,873
- Yeah.
- Yeah.

1204
01:08:14,916 --> 01:08:17,136
If we just punish him enough,

1205
01:08:17,180 --> 01:08:21,967
- he will eventually stop
or we can send him away.
- Mm-hmm.

1206
01:08:24,622 --> 01:08:27,233
[Hogan]
<i>It's really hard at school</i>

1207
01:08:27,277 --> 01:08:30,367
<i>because you can't like talk</i>
<i>at all there unless you like</i>
<i>have permission to.</i>

1208
01:08:30,410 --> 01:08:33,718
<i>So, since I talk a lot,</i>
<i>it's really hard for me</i>
<i>to focus on that.</i>

1209
01:08:33,761 --> 01:08:35,328
<i>And I have to do like</i>
<i>a lot of things.</i>

1210
01:08:35,372 --> 01:08:37,113
<i>I'm getting ready to do </i>
<i>that I don't really want to do,</i>

1211
01:08:37,156 --> 01:08:39,419
<i>but I kind of have to do,</i>
<i>like, clipping my nails</i>

1212
01:08:39,463 --> 01:08:41,552
<i>or cutting my hair</i>
<i>to a certain length</i>

1213
01:08:41,595 --> 01:08:43,989
<i>and keeping it out</i>
<i>of my eyes all day.</i>

1214
01:08:44,032 --> 01:08:47,079
<i>And the fact that</i>
<i>if I don't do these things,</i>
<i>I get punished for it.</i>

1215
01:08:47,123 --> 01:08:48,341
<i>It just doesn't feel right.</i>

1216
01:08:50,952 --> 01:08:56,349
I can see there's such fine line
where he could just
fall on either side.

1217
01:08:58,743 --> 01:09:01,180
<i>Like, gosh, that's not</i>
<i>what you want for your kid.</i>

1218
01:09:01,224 --> 01:09:04,575
<i>You don't want them</i>
<i>in trouble with the law</i>
<i>or in and out of prison.</i>

1219
01:09:04,618 --> 01:09:05,750
<i>But, um...</i>

1220
01:09:07,099 --> 01:09:09,406
- that... that's my biggest fear
for him.
- Mm-hmm.

1221
01:09:10,276 --> 01:09:12,017
- That he won't make it.
- Yeah.

1222
01:09:17,762 --> 01:09:21,461
I remember this guy
I was hanging around with.

1223
01:09:21,505 --> 01:09:25,161
He said, "Let's go,
rob this lady's house."

1224
01:09:25,204 --> 01:09:28,033
And I went with him to rob
the person's house.

1225
01:09:28,076 --> 01:09:31,776
Now if we got caught,
how much trouble
will I've gotten in?

1226
01:09:31,819 --> 01:09:34,561
But I didn't have
the inhibitors to say,

1227
01:09:34,605 --> 01:09:37,216
"Well, yes, it's not a bad idea.
Let's go rob the house."

1228
01:09:37,260 --> 01:09:40,915
You just... In the moment,
you just don't think about
consequence.

1229
01:09:43,135 --> 01:09:47,531
[Dale] <i>The fact that 25%</i>
<i>of prison populations</i>
<i>are saying they have ADHD</i>

1230
01:09:47,574 --> 01:09:51,056
<i>it's because we fail</i>
<i>as a society</i>
<i>on many, many levels</i>

1231
01:09:51,099 --> 01:09:53,232
to treat or provide support.

1232
01:09:53,276 --> 01:09:57,584
Particularly for, uh,
communities that are
the most under-resourced

1233
01:09:57,628 --> 01:10:01,806
<i>and thus end up only really</i>
<i>discovering their ADHD</i>

1234
01:10:01,849 --> 01:10:03,503
<i>once they're already</i>
<i>incarcerated,</i>

1235
01:10:03,547 --> 01:10:05,331
<i>and that's an absolute tragedy</i>
<i>for our country.</i>

1236
01:10:09,814 --> 01:10:12,425
[Kristin] <i>The stakes are really,</i>
<i>really high for Zara,</i>

1237
01:10:12,469 --> 01:10:15,080
<i>going into this new school</i>
<i>for middle school.</i>

1238
01:10:15,123 --> 01:10:17,082
They taste super good.

1239
01:10:17,125 --> 01:10:19,476
- They taste better
than they smell.
- [Savera] Oh, really?

1240
01:10:20,651 --> 01:10:23,915
The way we ended sixth grade
was very rough on Zara.

1241
01:10:24,829 --> 01:10:26,744
<i>We all needed a break</i>
<i>from school.</i>

1242
01:10:26,787 --> 01:10:29,225
- What time is it?
- [Adeel] It's quarter to nine.

1243
01:10:29,268 --> 01:10:34,404
[Savera] <i>And now she is ready</i>
<i>to go back seventh grade,</i>
<i>middle school.</i>

1244
01:10:38,016 --> 01:10:43,935
Day two comes and I get a call
from her mother,
which is the 21st.

1245
01:10:43,978 --> 01:10:46,981
And mother... mom is very upset.
Savera is very upset.

1246
01:10:47,025 --> 01:10:50,158
And she says she just received
a call from the school,

1247
01:10:50,202 --> 01:10:53,161
keep in mind, this is day two
at 8:30 in the morning,

1248
01:10:53,205 --> 01:10:56,121
that Zara had impulsively
said something

1249
01:10:56,164 --> 01:10:59,516
on the little tram bus
on the way to school

1250
01:10:59,559 --> 01:11:03,302
that the bus driver overheard
and brought to
the administrator's attention.

1251
01:11:03,346 --> 01:11:05,130
- Hi!
- How's it going?

1252
01:11:05,173 --> 01:11:07,175
- I'm good. How are you?
- I haven't seen you
since school started.

1253
01:11:07,219 --> 01:11:09,743
- Yeah. It's been such a...
- So, you know, we got quite
a lot to talk about.

1254
01:11:09,787 --> 01:11:11,876
What happened on day two,
I know something happened

1255
01:11:11,919 --> 01:11:13,138
- that we need to talk about.
- Yeah.

1256
01:11:14,095 --> 01:11:16,359
<i>I remember I was on the bus.</i>

1257
01:11:16,402 --> 01:11:19,057
<i>I was there</i>
<i>with a few of my friends.</i>

1258
01:11:19,100 --> 01:11:21,146
<i>Everything was going well</i>

1259
01:11:21,189 --> 01:11:23,322
<i>and then everyone was sharing</i>
<i>stories of their experiences,</i>

1260
01:11:23,366 --> 01:11:25,846
<i>their life, their summer,</i>
<i>things like that.</i>

1261
01:11:25,890 --> 01:11:28,762
<i>And then I made up this lie</i>
<i>just to have a story to tell,</i>

1262
01:11:28,806 --> 01:11:33,898
<i>and it was involving, you know,</i>
<i>me taking this course online,</i>

1263
01:11:33,941 --> 01:11:37,771
<i>and lying about my age, </i>
<i>and meeting these random people</i>
<i>at Starbucks.</i>

1264
01:11:40,383 --> 01:11:44,474
Zara told her new three friends,
that she just met yesterday,

1265
01:11:44,517 --> 01:11:50,349
that she was meeting someone
after school at Starbucks
who doesn't know she's 13.

1266
01:11:50,393 --> 01:11:54,266
What was your plan with
why you were making that up?

1267
01:11:54,310 --> 01:11:57,530
Was your plan to make them think
you were cool?

1268
01:11:57,574 --> 01:12:00,533
It was attention-seeking
behavior.
Just to have a story to tell.

1269
01:12:00,577 --> 01:12:02,230
- To have a story to tell?
- Yeah. Yeah.

1270
01:12:02,274 --> 01:12:04,668
- So, they would think,
you were cool?
- Right.

1271
01:12:04,711 --> 01:12:06,757
[Savera] <i>I... I didn't know</i>
<i>what to do. I... I was upset.</i>

1272
01:12:06,800 --> 01:12:10,761
And I... I think I just, uh,
kind of lost it there.

1273
01:12:10,804 --> 01:12:13,329
I was like, "Oh, no,
it's just second day
of school.

1274
01:12:13,372 --> 01:12:18,682
And maybe this is just going to
kind of lay the foundations
of her entire year ahead."

1275
01:12:18,725 --> 01:12:21,946
And, uh, she just kind of
messed it up for herself.

1276
01:12:21,989 --> 01:12:24,992
I knew it was wrong,
but thinking that,

1277
01:12:25,036 --> 01:12:26,907
"Oh, I could be
getting attention

1278
01:12:26,951 --> 01:12:30,781
- "and I can have everyone
laughing" replaced that.
- Okay.

1279
01:12:30,824 --> 01:12:33,087
I decided to...

1280
01:12:33,131 --> 01:12:36,613
[Savera] <i>As a mother,</i>
<i>I know when to forgive</i>
<i>and let go and move on.</i>

1281
01:12:36,656 --> 01:12:38,876
But if it becomes day in-day out

1282
01:12:38,919 --> 01:12:42,793
and you feel like the child
is just not learning
from their mistakes,

1283
01:12:42,836 --> 01:12:48,102
then, uh... then, yes, that's
become a little problematic
for me, personally.

1284
01:12:51,628 --> 01:12:54,282
[Kristin] <i>Zara will say anything</i>
<i>and you never know</i>
<i>what's going to come out.</i>

1285
01:12:55,545 --> 01:12:57,938
<i>But I want her to get</i>
<i>the confidence in herself</i>

1286
01:12:57,982 --> 01:13:00,811
<i>to know that she is okay</i>
<i>and that she is enough.</i>

1287
01:13:13,563 --> 01:13:17,610
[Emily] <i>What I see now is</i>
<i>there's no way except to push </i>
<i>Hogan through the school system.</i>

1288
01:13:17,654 --> 01:13:19,003
<i>There's no alternatives.</i>

1289
01:13:20,961 --> 01:13:23,573
<i>If he could apprentice</i>
<i>with somebody,</i>
<i>if he had a mentor,</i>

1290
01:13:23,616 --> 01:13:28,447
<i>if he could do an on-the-job</i>
<i>training now,</i>
<i>I think he'd be successful.</i>

1291
01:13:28,491 --> 01:13:30,623
Which is the new screen
and which is the old?

1292
01:13:30,667 --> 01:13:33,147
- This the old one.
- That's the old one.

1293
01:13:33,191 --> 01:13:34,888
You're taking off
the crystal ball.

1294
01:13:34,932 --> 01:13:36,499
I just need the home button.

1295
01:13:38,849 --> 01:13:43,767
[Emily] <i>Because he has a lot of</i>
<i>skills that in life are great,</i>

1296
01:13:43,810 --> 01:13:48,249
<i>like, to ask questions,</i>
<i>to be argumentative,</i>
<i>to push boundaries.</i>

1297
01:13:48,293 --> 01:13:50,513
<i>Those are all</i>
<i>really great things.</i>

1298
01:13:51,427 --> 01:13:54,473
That is not what teachers want
in the classroom though.

1299
01:13:54,517 --> 01:13:57,258
That's seen as disrespectful
and non-compliant.

1300
01:13:58,521 --> 01:13:59,957
[Hogan] Oh, yeah.

1301
01:14:02,220 --> 01:14:03,961
[Emily] <i>We always would</i>
<i>call him Mowgli,</i>

1302
01:14:04,004 --> 01:14:06,616
<i>- like, the jungle boy.</i>
- [Troy] <i>Yes.</i>

1303
01:14:06,659 --> 01:14:08,966
[Emily] <i>Because he...</i>
<i>When he goes outside or when</i>
<i>we would go with camping,</i>

1304
01:14:09,009 --> 01:14:11,621
<i>it was like,</i>
<i>he was in his native land.</i>

1305
01:14:11,664 --> 01:14:14,624
All right. I caught a cat fish.
I'm gonna let it go.

1306
01:14:14,667 --> 01:14:17,496
[Emily] <i>And I always think,</i>
<i>"Gosh, if he had been</i>
<i>a hunter or a gatherer,</i>

1307
01:14:17,540 --> 01:14:20,151
<i>like, ADHD wouldn't</i>
<i>have even...</i>

1308
01:14:20,194 --> 01:14:23,763
<i>"It would have been a good thing</i>
<i>to have what he has."</i>

1309
01:14:23,807 --> 01:14:26,418
Don't hurt me,
I'm trying to help you.

1310
01:14:26,462 --> 01:14:28,159
[Troy] <i>I mean, I might look</i>
<i>at a stream and think,</i>

1311
01:14:28,202 --> 01:14:31,075
I wonder, if I could catch
those fish with my hands.

1312
01:14:31,118 --> 01:14:32,946
I'm gonna walk out there
and do it.

1313
01:14:32,990 --> 01:14:34,600
- He does.
- Mm-hmm.

1314
01:14:34,644 --> 01:14:36,472
[Troy] <i>Just grab them</i>
<i>with his bare hands.</i>

1315
01:14:36,515 --> 01:14:37,560
Here he is.

1316
01:14:37,603 --> 01:14:40,214
[mellow music playing]

1317
01:14:43,566 --> 01:14:46,960
[Troy] <i>It's that kind of</i>
<i>non-filter "That looks cool.</i>
<i>I'm gonna do it."</i>

1318
01:14:47,004 --> 01:14:49,659
<i>That can get you</i>
<i>in a ton of trouble.</i>

1319
01:14:49,702 --> 01:14:53,532
But then it can also put you
in positions

1320
01:14:53,576 --> 01:14:57,449
where you kind of do
these really cool thing. So...

1321
01:14:58,929 --> 01:15:01,279
- [Hogan] Can you fix my collar?
- [Emily] Mm-hmm.

1322
01:15:03,934 --> 01:15:08,112
[Hogan] <i>I see myself as maybe</i>
<i>doing some kind of engineering</i>
<i>job or like business owner.</i>

1323
01:15:08,155 --> 01:15:11,376
Like, one day I could manage
that and I could really try,

1324
01:15:11,419 --> 01:15:13,639
and I feel like I could do
really good things.

1325
01:15:18,688 --> 01:15:21,517
Try to get around you.
It's the easiest thing ever.

1326
01:15:24,171 --> 01:15:25,999
[both chuckle]

1327
01:15:28,045 --> 01:15:31,701
[both laugh]

1328
01:15:35,269 --> 01:15:38,795
[mellow music playing]

1329
01:15:45,628 --> 01:15:49,849
[Eliza] <i>The diagnosis was</i>
<i>permission to be the things</i>
<i>that I am.</i>

1330
01:15:51,677 --> 01:15:55,159
<i>And not call them flawed</i>
<i>but call them what they are,</i>

1331
01:15:55,202 --> 01:15:58,292
<i>and understand that some of them</i>
<i>need to be managed.</i>

1332
01:15:58,336 --> 01:16:01,382
<i>And some of them</i>
<i>need to be accelerated.</i>

1333
01:16:06,649 --> 01:16:10,348
<i>The diagnosis has also</i>
<i>just made me a better human</i>
<i>to my child.</i>

1334
01:16:12,393 --> 01:16:15,571
<i>I can relate as long </i>
<i>as I take two seconds to look...</i>

1335
01:16:15,614 --> 01:16:18,835
<i>look at what the kid version</i>
<i>versus the adult version</i>
<i>looks like.</i>

1336
01:16:18,878 --> 01:16:20,750
All right. Let's have a seat.
Let's see.

1337
01:16:20,793 --> 01:16:22,490
Keep her perch.

1338
01:16:22,534 --> 01:16:25,015
Keep her...
Did we bring a bucket?

1339
01:16:25,058 --> 01:16:26,973
- Did we bring a bucket?
- No, it's fine. It's fine.

1340
01:16:27,017 --> 01:16:29,280
- We can just keep...
- Oh, my, God, Nicholas,
I knew that might be the...

1341
01:16:29,323 --> 01:16:35,721
[Eliza] <i>And I also... I look at</i>
<i>him with this intense hope.</i>

1342
01:16:39,420 --> 01:16:43,773
[birds chirping]

1343
01:16:43,816 --> 01:16:47,211
- Hi!
- [Kristin] <i>How are you?</i>

1344
01:16:47,254 --> 01:16:49,953
- I'm good. How are you?
- <i>I'm great.</i>

1345
01:16:49,996 --> 01:16:53,086
- <i>How is the school you're going?</i>
- Good.

1346
01:16:54,697 --> 01:16:59,615
<i>I realized that</i>
<i>if I wanted things to change,</i>
<i>I had to follow a routine.</i>

1347
01:17:00,920 --> 01:17:04,010
<i>And I've started taking</i>
<i>more initiative of my life</i>

1348
01:17:04,054 --> 01:17:06,360
<i>and because of that</i>
<i>everything else improved.</i>

1349
01:17:08,188 --> 01:17:11,801
[Savera] So, I think, Zara,
I think this is your pile
mostly. I did your laundry.

1350
01:17:12,845 --> 01:17:16,370
<i>Prior to finding out</i>
<i>about her ADHD,</i>

1351
01:17:16,414 --> 01:17:22,028
I don't think we... we really
had the kind of mother-daughter
relationship that I wanted.

1352
01:17:23,551 --> 01:17:27,338
<i>Yeah. I always misconstrued</i>
<i>her actions.</i>

1353
01:17:27,381 --> 01:17:30,646
<i>I thought she was trying</i>
<i>to provoke me at one point</i>

1354
01:17:30,689 --> 01:17:34,040
<i>that she just enjoyed</i>
<i>getting a reaction out of me.</i>

1355
01:17:34,084 --> 01:17:36,521
- Look at you.
- [Adeel] You guys can sit there,
okay?

1356
01:17:36,564 --> 01:17:39,350
So, you can bring up
the wood from there.

1357
01:17:39,393 --> 01:17:43,833
I think we, uh, sometimes
were judgmental,

1358
01:17:45,051 --> 01:17:47,358
<i>instead of trying to</i>
<i>understand...</i>

1359
01:17:47,401 --> 01:17:48,664
[Zara] Smile.

1360
01:17:50,753 --> 01:17:52,537
[woman 4] <i>Do you have regrets</i>
<i>about how you handled?</i>

1361
01:17:54,060 --> 01:17:54,931
Yes.

1362
01:17:56,497 --> 01:17:59,849
[soft music playing]

1363
01:18:03,679 --> 01:18:06,377
[Savera] <i>My regrets are that</i>
<i>I... I scolded her.</i>

1364
01:18:06,420 --> 01:18:09,293
<i>I, uh, yelled at her.</i>

1365
01:18:11,295 --> 01:18:13,689
Shouted at her and, um...

1366
01:18:16,692 --> 01:18:19,869
and said mean things to her
that I shouldn't have.

1367
01:18:19,912 --> 01:18:22,654
Oh, let's go. Oh, oh, oh.

1368
01:18:22,698 --> 01:18:27,790
<i>Had I known this earlier on,</i>
<i>I could have handled things</i>
<i>very differently.</i>

1369
01:18:27,833 --> 01:18:31,576
Come here, come here. Fetch.

1370
01:18:31,619 --> 01:18:32,969
[Kristin] <i>Tell me, how things</i>
<i>are going with mom.</i>

1371
01:18:33,012 --> 01:18:34,753
<i>How's that relationship going?</i>

1372
01:18:34,797 --> 01:18:36,537
That is going actually
really well.

1373
01:18:36,581 --> 01:18:40,454
I definitely feel the diagnosis
helped her understand me

1374
01:18:40,498 --> 01:18:43,675
and why I do what I do
much better than before.

1375
01:18:43,719 --> 01:18:46,765
And it's also improved
our relationship.

1376
01:18:46,809 --> 01:18:48,636
<i>Wow, well,</i>
<i>that is really powerful.</i>

1377
01:18:48,680 --> 01:18:50,682
[dog barking]

1378
01:18:52,336 --> 01:18:56,514
[Savera] <i>I, as a parent,</i>
<i>have unconditional love</i>
<i>for my daughter.</i>

1379
01:18:56,557 --> 01:19:01,258
<i>And what I learned was</i>
<i>try to show it more often,</i>

1380
01:19:01,301 --> 01:19:05,044
to make sure she knows
that I'm here to support her,

1381
01:19:05,088 --> 01:19:08,787
help her,
and make things easier for her.

1382
01:19:08,831 --> 01:19:11,790
<i>And that has changed</i>
<i>our relationship, too.</i>

1383
01:19:11,834 --> 01:19:14,097
<i>She's able to share more</i>
<i>with me now.</i>

1384
01:19:15,620 --> 01:19:19,711
Through this whole learning
I've always told Zara,
we're in this together.

1385
01:19:19,755 --> 01:19:21,191
She's learning, I'm learning.

1386
01:19:22,888 --> 01:19:25,064
<i>I have seen a great deal</i>
<i>of resilience in her, too,</i>

1387
01:19:25,108 --> 01:19:30,940
<i>how she handles it so strongly,</i>
<i>so bravely,</i>
<i>so courageously at her age.</i>

1388
01:19:30,983 --> 01:19:35,248
Zara has made me
a better person
and a better parent.

1389
01:19:37,120 --> 01:19:40,210
[Adeel] <i>I truly do believe</i>
<i>that no matter what</i>

1390
01:19:40,253 --> 01:19:42,299
<i>my kid Zara is going to be</i>
<i>exceptional</i>

1391
01:19:42,342 --> 01:19:47,304
because she...
she has a good heart.
She's extremely smart.

1392
01:19:47,347 --> 01:19:49,436
Just these...
these social things

1393
01:19:49,480 --> 01:19:52,048
and she's gonna
figure them out, right?
Like it's part of growing up.

1394
01:19:52,091 --> 01:19:54,833
You learn and she will,
and she's going
to do amazing things.

1395
01:19:54,877 --> 01:19:56,008
I have no doubt.

1396
01:20:01,187 --> 01:20:03,973
So, right now school
has been going pretty well.

1397
01:20:04,016 --> 01:20:05,452
I've started to...

1398
01:20:05,496 --> 01:20:06,932
Brace yourselves,

1399
01:20:06,976 --> 01:20:09,630
I have started
to make friends now. Whoa!

1400
01:20:09,674 --> 01:20:11,415
Whoo!

1401
01:20:11,458 --> 01:20:13,896
[kid 3] Oh! Watch it.

1402
01:20:13,939 --> 01:20:15,811
Yeah!

1403
01:20:21,468 --> 01:20:23,383
[Rece]
<i>I kind of like the way I am</i>

1404
01:20:23,427 --> 01:20:27,213
<i>because I'm not like</i>
<i>every other kid</i>

1405
01:20:27,257 --> 01:20:29,085
and I like being different.

1406
01:20:29,128 --> 01:20:30,521
[whistle blows]

1407
01:20:30,564 --> 01:20:34,090
[indistinct chatter]

1408
01:20:36,266 --> 01:20:37,876
- [kid 4] Come on, Rece.
- [man 12] Come on, Rece.

1409
01:20:40,313 --> 01:20:42,838
[Rece] <i>I've never really thought</i>
<i>of ADHD as something</i>
<i>that could hold me back.</i>

1410
01:20:42,881 --> 01:20:45,753
- [man 12] Come on, Rece. Bam.
- [Rece] Oh, yeah.

1411
01:20:45,797 --> 01:20:48,191
[indistinct chatter]

1412
01:20:48,234 --> 01:20:50,410
[Bart] <i>With maturity, and with,</i>

1413
01:20:50,454 --> 01:20:52,935
I think some positive
role models,
as he gets older.

1414
01:20:52,978 --> 01:20:55,459
[indistinct chatter]

1415
01:20:55,502 --> 01:20:57,026
<i>I think he's just gonna...</i>

1416
01:20:57,069 --> 01:21:00,594
<i>I mean, it's endless</i>
<i>where he can go.</i>

1417
01:21:00,638 --> 01:21:02,161
<i>But he has to keep</i>
<i>working at it.</i>

1418
01:21:02,205 --> 01:21:04,076
<i>You know,</i>
<i>it's not gonna come easy.</i>

1419
01:21:08,298 --> 01:21:11,344
[Briana] Who did you play with
at recess today?

1420
01:21:11,388 --> 01:21:13,129
Oh.

1421
01:21:13,172 --> 01:21:17,263
First, I played with Lucas,
then I played with Adrian.

1422
01:21:17,307 --> 01:21:18,961
- [Briana] You did?
- Uh-huh.

1423
01:21:19,004 --> 01:21:21,572
- [Briana] Oh, good.
- I played with balls.

1424
01:21:21,615 --> 01:21:23,574
[Briana] Good. That's good.

1425
01:21:23,617 --> 01:21:28,884
<i>I spoke to the doctor again.</i>
<i>She told me about Focalin.</i>

1426
01:21:30,015 --> 01:21:34,715
<i>It was very stressful</i>
<i>trying to figure out</i>
<i>the medication.</i>

1427
01:21:34,759 --> 01:21:40,156
<i>And I just felt so bad that</i>
<i>I have to keep trying these</i>
<i>different medications on him</i>

1428
01:21:40,199 --> 01:21:42,723
<i>and I still wasn't quite sure</i>
<i>of how he was feeling.</i>

1429
01:21:47,728 --> 01:21:49,208
Look!

1430
01:21:49,252 --> 01:21:51,210
What?

1431
01:21:51,254 --> 01:21:52,516
[Briana] They are cooking.

1432
01:21:53,996 --> 01:21:56,389
<i>This medication has been</i>
<i>working awesome.</i>

1433
01:21:58,304 --> 01:22:03,483
<i>He does very well with the...</i>
<i>He's still himself.</i>
<i>He's just more focused.</i>

1434
01:22:03,527 --> 01:22:05,790
- Is that what
you are trying to do?
- No.

1435
01:22:05,833 --> 01:22:08,532
- You're trying turn me
into a cartoon?
- No.

1436
01:22:08,575 --> 01:22:11,796
- Are you sure?
- No. I am.

1437
01:22:11,839 --> 01:22:14,233
[Briana] <i>Bear loves his</i>
<i>new school.</i>

1438
01:22:14,277 --> 01:22:19,021
He loves his teacher.
He loves the kids in the class.
He's doing very well.

1439
01:22:19,064 --> 01:22:22,372
I get nothing but praises
from the principal,

1440
01:22:22,415 --> 01:22:24,983
who says she wants to clone him
and have more Bears,

1441
01:22:25,027 --> 01:22:29,683
which, you know,
at his last school is like
the complete opposite.

1442
01:22:29,727 --> 01:22:31,816
- I see you.
- [both chuckle]

1443
01:22:31,859 --> 01:22:35,167
- [indistinct dialogue]
- [Jean] Hey, how much
you wanna bet?

1444
01:22:35,211 --> 01:22:36,429
Taco.

1445
01:22:38,866 --> 01:22:44,960
[Gail] <i>We have an opportunity</i>
<i>to understand that</i>
<i>this is a hardwired issue.</i>

1446
01:22:45,003 --> 01:22:47,875
<i>And like any other</i>
<i>medical issue,</i>

1447
01:22:47,919 --> 01:22:51,140
<i>there are treatments</i>
<i>that can help.</i>

1448
01:22:51,183 --> 01:22:53,620
<i>But that there are</i>
<i>special strengths</i>

1449
01:22:53,664 --> 01:22:56,319
<i>that exist in those people</i>
<i>with ADHD.</i>

1450
01:22:56,362 --> 01:23:01,063
And we have, I think, a duty
and a responsibility
to acknowledge that,

1451
01:23:01,106 --> 01:23:03,630
<i>to encourage that,</i>

1452
01:23:03,674 --> 01:23:08,505
<i>and to make them able</i>
<i>to use and flourish</i>
<i>those particular strengths.</i>

1453
01:23:08,548 --> 01:23:12,596
<i>Not only for themselves</i>
<i>and their lives,</i>
<i>but for society as a whole.</i>

1454
01:23:13,989 --> 01:23:17,601
[Amy] <i>If the world could </i>
<i>understand, if the teachers and </i>
<i>the tutors, and the babysitters,</i>

1455
01:23:17,644 --> 01:23:20,865
and the parents, and school bus
drivers could understand,

1456
01:23:20,908 --> 01:23:24,782
this child has these challenge
and this strength.

1457
01:23:24,825 --> 01:23:26,262
So, here's how
you can help them.

1458
01:23:28,742 --> 01:23:33,182
[Ned] <i>We found that by</i>
<i>recognizing the strengths</i>
<i>in our patients of any age,</i>

1459
01:23:33,225 --> 01:23:34,835
<i>they felt a whole lot better.</i>

1460
01:23:35,706 --> 01:23:39,014
But fueling the strengths,
you crowd out the weaknesses.

1461
01:23:39,057 --> 01:23:42,060
And... and they find ways
of dealing being on time,

1462
01:23:42,104 --> 01:23:46,543
of getting organized
because they're motivated.
They want to unwrap their gift.

1463
01:23:46,586 --> 01:23:48,023
Hey.

1464
01:23:48,066 --> 01:23:50,068
[Ellen]
<i>You have to give people hope.</i>

1465
01:23:50,112 --> 01:23:54,072
<i>And I think that if they can</i>
<i>pursue things that they love,</i>

1466
01:23:54,116 --> 01:23:56,422
and everyone has things
that they love...

1467
01:23:57,423 --> 01:23:59,295
<i>they are going</i>
<i>to have a happier life.</i>

1468
01:23:59,338 --> 01:24:00,992
[Bear chuckles]

1469
01:24:01,036 --> 01:24:03,908
The way forward for me
for families with ADHD

1470
01:24:03,951 --> 01:24:07,955
is to don't lose sight
of the relationship.

1471
01:24:07,999 --> 01:24:12,003
<i>Stop longing for the child</i>
<i>you thought you wanted</i>
<i>when you were pregnant.</i>

1472
01:24:13,222 --> 01:24:15,354
<i>And accept the child you have...</i>

1473
01:24:16,312 --> 01:24:18,357
<i>take it as your mission,</i>
<i>as your shepherd,</i>

1474
01:24:18,401 --> 01:24:21,056
<i>to help them develop</i>
<i>those talents, right?</i>

1475
01:24:21,099 --> 01:24:25,408
<i>And focus on your relationship </i>
<i>with them over everything else.</i>

1476
01:24:25,451 --> 01:24:28,672
<i>Because that's what's going to</i>
<i>sustain them and sustain you.</i>

1477
01:24:30,978 --> 01:24:33,459
My parents were always
really strong and behind me

1478
01:24:33,503 --> 01:24:36,636
<i>and I think they... they knew</i>
<i>that it came in a rough</i>
<i>and tumble package.</i>

1479
01:24:36,680 --> 01:24:42,512
My mom really sat down with me
and poured into me
when I struggled.

1480
01:24:42,555 --> 01:24:45,080
<i>On the days I didn't want</i>
<i>to do my schoolwork,</i>

1481
01:24:45,123 --> 01:24:49,301
<i>she will sit there and like,</i>
<i>"Hey, Michelle,</i>
<i>we have to get this done."</i>

1482
01:24:49,345 --> 01:24:50,781
I'd always be sitting
in the kitchen table

1483
01:24:50,824 --> 01:24:53,088
and my mom would come in
and she'd say,

1484
01:24:53,131 --> 01:24:57,831
"Look, you know, you...
you've got to do
two things in life.

1485
01:24:57,875 --> 01:25:02,488
<i>"You got to work</i>
<i>hard and you got to make sure </i>
<i>your spirit never gets broken."</i>

1486
01:25:02,532 --> 01:25:06,057
And I think that, like,
the phrase "Your spirit
will never get broken"

1487
01:25:06,101 --> 01:25:08,886
is the only reason I made it
through childhood.

1488
01:25:11,628 --> 01:25:16,328
[Francine] <i>Focus less on the way </i>
<i>in which they get to their goals</i>

1489
01:25:16,372 --> 01:25:20,202
and more on nurturing them
as they go along that journey.

1490
01:25:20,245 --> 01:25:22,204
It's not easy.

1491
01:25:22,247 --> 01:25:24,467
And don't get the idea
that if you just take
a few pills,

1492
01:25:24,510 --> 01:25:27,122
that all of a sudden
everything's going to be fixed
and wonderful.

1493
01:25:27,992 --> 01:25:30,603
<i>But the fact is you've got</i>
<i>some impressive strengths.</i>

1494
01:25:30,647 --> 01:25:32,562
This is amazing.

1495
01:25:32,605 --> 01:25:37,175
They're just
really misunderstood;
and it breaks my heart.

1496
01:25:37,219 --> 01:25:41,701
Because I know that they receive
such negative feedback
from their world.

1497
01:25:41,745 --> 01:25:44,182
<i>And I think,</i>
<i>if I could pick one thing</i>

1498
01:25:44,226 --> 01:25:47,316
<i>that I would want</i>
<i>parents, educators, and</i>
<i>the general public</i>

1499
01:25:47,359 --> 01:25:49,056
<i>to know about children</i>
<i>with ADHD is that</i>

1500
01:25:49,100 --> 01:25:52,059
<i>they're little creative,</i>
<i>imaginative beings</i>

1501
01:25:52,103 --> 01:25:56,934
<i>who just need</i>
<i>a little more support, </i>
<i>a little more positive feedback,</i>

1502
01:25:56,977 --> 01:25:59,197
to kind of put them
on the right track.

1503
01:25:59,241 --> 01:26:02,722
Your child doesn't have to be
the next Einstein,

1504
01:26:02,766 --> 01:26:06,944
or the next, you know,
incredible CEO, to be a success,

1505
01:26:06,987 --> 01:26:11,644
but simply to help your child
to feel good about what
the strengths that they do have,

1506
01:26:12,515 --> 01:26:14,952
to shore up the weaknesses
that they do have,

1507
01:26:14,995 --> 01:26:17,520
and to be the best version
of themselves they can be.

1508
01:26:22,960 --> 01:26:24,353
[woman 5] All right. Good job.

1509
01:26:25,267 --> 01:26:27,182
[Briana] <i>I am super excited</i>
<i>for his future,</i>

1510
01:26:27,225 --> 01:26:30,533
like, it's to a point
where I kinda...

1511
01:26:30,576 --> 01:26:32,622
I don't want him
to grow too quickly

1512
01:26:32,665 --> 01:26:37,453
but I kind of do
because I just can't wait to see
where he's gonna go.

1513
01:26:37,496 --> 01:26:40,586
<i>Because he's always talked</i>
<i>about being an astronaut.</i>

1514
01:26:40,630 --> 01:26:46,810
Mars, Earth, Venus, Mercury,
Moon, and Sun.

1515
01:26:48,115 --> 01:26:51,336
I just wondered like,
"Will he actually be
an astronaut?"

1516
01:26:55,688 --> 01:26:57,821
Hey, Bear.

1517
01:26:57,864 --> 01:27:01,825
So, it sounds like,
I was a kid just like you
when I was growing up.

1518
01:27:01,868 --> 01:27:05,132
Um, I struggled in school.
I couldn't pay attention.

1519
01:27:05,176 --> 01:27:07,091
I couldn't really sit still
very well.

1520
01:27:08,135 --> 01:27:10,094
<i>But you know what?</i>

1521
01:27:10,137 --> 01:27:15,926
<i>I, eventually, after many,</i>
<i>many years found inspiration.</i>

1522
01:27:15,969 --> 01:27:20,278
<i>And never forget, </i>
<i>you can do absolutely anything,</i>

1523
01:27:20,322 --> 01:27:24,282
if you work hard enough,
and never, ever give up.

1524
01:27:25,892 --> 01:27:30,245
- [Briana] Where are you going?
You are going to the Moon?
- [Bear] Yes.

1525
01:27:30,288 --> 01:27:32,725
[upbeat music playing]

1526
01:27:39,384 --> 01:27:45,738
All the systems are there
just... just to create order
and normality.

1527
01:27:45,782 --> 01:27:51,309
But all the greatness is when
people break outside
the systems like, period.

1528
01:27:51,353 --> 01:27:56,575
So, to speak, you know,
celebrate that you're
outside the system.

1529
01:27:57,533 --> 01:28:01,014
I want to tell parents
who have kids with ADHD

1530
01:28:01,058 --> 01:28:05,715
that it's okay, that your child
is going to make it.

1531
01:28:05,758 --> 01:28:09,588
They're not less than,
actually, they're better than.

1532
01:28:09,632 --> 01:28:13,331
I attribute my success
in business to my ADD.

1533
01:28:13,375 --> 01:28:15,072
There's no question in my mind.

1534
01:28:15,115 --> 01:28:17,901
But it's been a tradeoff,
you know,

1535
01:28:17,944 --> 01:28:20,382
because, like I said,
they've been times

1536
01:28:20,425 --> 01:28:23,733
where you just want to cry
from the frustration.

1537
01:28:26,083 --> 01:28:28,912
When I found out a lot
of geniuses have ADHD,

1538
01:28:28,955 --> 01:28:32,611
I went, "Ah, there you go.
I'm a genius."

1539
01:28:33,960 --> 01:28:37,964
The gift is that you can see
something that others can't see.

1540
01:28:38,008 --> 01:28:41,272
You know, sometimes you feel
like you can see around walls.

1541
01:28:41,316 --> 01:28:43,709
You know, that's something
that is a gift.

1542
01:28:44,754 --> 01:28:47,887
When you feel good
about yourself you can achieve
anything you want.

1543
01:28:47,931 --> 01:28:51,587
And let's instill that
in every, every family,

1544
01:28:51,630 --> 01:28:55,591
every person, every... every kid
who's watching this right now.

1545
01:28:56,940 --> 01:29:01,292
If I didn't have
this ADHD brain,
I wouldn't be where I am today.

1546
01:29:01,336 --> 01:29:03,990
And I'm pretty happy
with where I am today.

1547
01:29:05,427 --> 01:29:11,128
I don't think I would have
been as good at the creative
side of my job without the ADHD

1548
01:29:11,171 --> 01:29:18,178
because I think sometimes
your brain is not afraid to just
let those crazy ideas come in.

1549
01:29:18,222 --> 01:29:20,572
Because there's so many coming

1550
01:29:20,616 --> 01:29:24,010
that, um, you find one that you
think is going to work best
but you execute it.

1551
01:29:25,447 --> 01:29:26,796
There's nothing wrong with you.

1552
01:29:27,710 --> 01:29:29,973
Your brain is beautiful.

1553
01:29:30,016 --> 01:29:34,934
Your society didn't do
a good job telling you
that you're creative.

1554
01:29:34,978 --> 01:29:38,677
Society didn't tell...
do a good job
telling you that you have,

1555
01:29:38,721 --> 01:29:43,290
you know, the ability to focus
on many things at once.

1556
01:29:43,334 --> 01:29:44,944
You're freaking awesome.

1557
01:29:46,337 --> 01:29:48,600
You know, I said
if I can take a magic pill

1558
01:29:48,644 --> 01:29:51,864
and cure myself of it
I would never do it.

1559
01:29:51,908 --> 01:29:53,300
Never in a million years.

1560
01:29:54,650 --> 01:29:56,869
If I could rename ADHD,

1561
01:29:58,697 --> 01:30:01,221
I would call it "Howie."

1562
01:30:01,265 --> 01:30:03,398
And I think that everybody
should rename it

1563
01:30:03,441 --> 01:30:07,489
with their own names
because that's what makes us us.

1564
01:30:07,532 --> 01:30:09,621
So my ADHD is Howie.

1565
01:30:10,666 --> 01:30:11,406
What's your name?